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Hi there Whispermae, firstly I'd like to acknowledge your bravery in being vulnerable with us in sharing these traumatic experiences from your past, we are very privileged to be trusted by you in this way. How does it feel for you when you share these experiences and/or type them out? If you feel co...

Hi there SillyMcGoof_, In terms of approaching how to work out how to make your space feel more intimate, way that could be useful to approach this with is trying individual things tied to your sense and working out a few small things that add the kinds of feelings you'd like to add to your space. F...

Hi there SeanHunkius, and welcome to the boards. I'm sorry to hear that you're in a situation where you're feeling down about your body, but glad to hear that you feel that you can speak with us about this, it is Scarleteen is a safe space for people to ask these kinds of questions. It sounds like f...

Glad to hear that the reply helped! I would recommend reading the articles if you are yet to already, they explore further the ideas that one kind of sex isn't better than the other, and that for most humans, we need multiple forms of stimulation to feel pleasure. Also if you're referring to 'finger...

Hi there Mop, would I be correct in inferring that these thoughts recalling the situation and feeling disgust are intrusive and recurring? In your other thread, we also spoke about you intrusive thoughts about disgust and shame, and discussing these with a therapist from an OCD perspective/addressin...

Hi Juliaho90, essentially the way the pill works has to do with the presence of the synthetic hormones that the pills contain in your body, they interact with your body's systems and cause the effects outlined above (prevent ovulation from happening, to thicken cervical mucus so sperm cells are less...

Hi there lanadelneigh, welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling disappointed about your first experience of exploring masturbation via fingering. Whilst it might not assist with the inital feeling of disappointment, I can reassure you that many people have this experience at fir...

Hi Juliaho90, there is no risk associated with what you describe as the timing of sex doesn't have any effects on the effectiveness of your hormonal birth control. What does effect it is the dose interval of taking your pills, which as you note was maintained correctly. This is because what the comb...

Hi there Theansweris42, just to add a quick note regarding control of your own finances and not knowing what your parents would do if you said you were moving out, it would be worthwhile to set up your own account, which you could start trying to keep any money you make in, and also if you have acce...

Hi there awhiskandalamp, sorry to hear that you're struggling with things at the moment. I'm hoping that there will some things we explore together in the context of this post which might be able to help you a bit. The first thing I'd like to raise is the concept that you can appreciate how people l...

Hi Theansweris42, sorry to hear that you've run into an administrative block with your school email, which I assume your parents monitor? In terms of writing things down privately first, could writing a draft of what you want to say in your private email drafts help to keep it private, even if you'd...

Hi Mop, I'm sorry to hear that this experience causing you strong feelings of shame at the moment. As the other volunteers and staff were mentioning, it could be good to look at this not from a sexuality perspective, but through an OCD perspective, looking at why you're having intrusive thoughts abo...

Hi there purple_triangle, sorry to hear that you're dealing with these kinds of difficult feelings at the moment, feeling that you might secretly be "bad" is something that a lot of people struggle with (even when they aren't really that way), however whilst I hope this might assist in hel...

During holiday periods with large/lengthy family gatherings that may involve staying with family - many people have difficulty having time or space to themselves, which is particularly heightened when difficult family members or dynamics are involved. With a major holiday period approaching, now is ...

Hi Anne, hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead after a busy week.

In terms of having alternate activities for when your down, would you be open to exploring other activities you could try that are not as dependant on supplies? We could assist with brainstorming if you would like?

Hi there Mixxes, sorry to hear you’re having some stressful interactions with Lake right now. It sounds like he isn’t coping very well with things at the moment, and sometimes that can lead to people not making a lot of sense when they’re under stress, and sometimes the threat of a relationship endi...

Hi there NCHolmes, I have read back on your thread and am sorry to hear that you're having to deal with the impact of the choice your partner has made to be dishonest with you. Taking some time to process your feelings and have some personal space by your husband staying elsewhere sound like a good ...

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...

Hi there Bi Guy, you need to buy yourself a second hairbrush particularly if it is being used anally. You should use a condom on it and then wash it with soap and hot water. I also want to note that if you have access to your own money, there is no legal minimum age to buy a sex toy. There are some ...

Hi there LisaRose, sorry to hear that you're finding things tricky at the moment. Perhaps it might help to consider that whilst you take your time to feel comfortable with your own sexuality, that everyone has the right to privacy including you, and has their own internal thoughts that they don't sh...

Hi there spottedowl, it sounds like you have a lot of stressors going on in your life right now, and it makes total sense that these are having an effect on your sexual response system at the moment. As you may have seen on the main Scarleteen site or on other forum responses brain is a really impor...

Hi there Sienna, To answer your questions: Vaginal "tightness" is one of the bigger myths out there at the moment. Really that sensation is about how relaxed or aroused someone is, which can also vary from person to person. So the fact that you can fit what you want to use for masturbation...

Hi there hoid_washington, I'm glad to hear that you were comfortable asking a question here with us. One thing that it can help to think about right off the bat is to say that "flirting" as depicted in media as this kind of cryptic and innuendo-but-not-too-much is not a mode of communicati...

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about in future if you'd like. There are lots of really good resources in the below links and message that can help you understand how pregnancy works and why the situation you describe ...