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by Elise
Fri Nov 26, 2021 5:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im struggling to cope with the fact im not 12 anymore
Replies: 14
Views: 285

Re: Im struggling to cope with the fact im not 12 anymore

Hi there miskosou, we could help with options in a more confidential setting on our live chat service, which is 1:1. It's open at the following times: Monday: 2-5PM PST (10PM Monday - 1AM Tuesday GMT) Tuesday: 2-5PM PST (10PM Tuesday - 1AM Wednesday GMT) Friday: 2-5PM PST (10PM Friday - 1AM Saturday...
by Elise
Fri Nov 26, 2021 5:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 8
Views: 190

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Glad to hear that things are going in a positive direction for you, and timing this in a way that works well with your therapy sessions sounds like a good idea. Yes, do let us know how you go :)
by Elise
Fri Nov 26, 2021 5:16 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Is it weird that I actually want to be grounded?
Replies: 3
Views: 97

Re: Is it weird that I actually want to be grounded?

Hi Sadie1123, continuing on with what Siân has said - I think the two concepts that you are looking at exploring here are different and it is important to consider a few things when you're exploring them mentally. Also, you're not a bad personal at all for being curious. It's just important to think...
by Elise
Fri Nov 26, 2021 4:23 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Help with Anusol Cream
Replies: 5
Views: 189

Re: Help with Anusol Cream

Glad it worked well for you! Wishing you a good recovery and do feel free to come back to our boards for any future questions you may have :)
by Elise
Fri Nov 26, 2021 4:19 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1089

Re: Masterbating

Hi Kyleg2007, before I get started on this answer, a quick note on the words you are using, as there is some better vocab you can use here. I assume here that when you say "normal man", you are referring to a person who has a penis and testes, and has a male gender identity. The term for w...
by Elise
Thu Nov 25, 2021 4:08 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Too excited,how to get calm before finding cervix?
Replies: 9
Views: 183

Re: Too excited,how to get calm before finding cervix?

Hi there iloveeveryone, and thanks for your question. Firstly, it is okay if you are excited and a bit nervous about trying this new thing, if you're still able to insert your finger in your vaginal canal, you'll still be able to get a sense of your cervix height. Your cervix's position can change a...
by Elise
Thu Nov 25, 2021 2:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Books on reproduction
Replies: 7
Views: 166

Re: Books on reproduction

Hi there Somesh, I'm sorry that you struggled with depression through that scare, but glad to hear that our articles were able to assist. Before getting into some book recommendations, I will post some of our in-depth articles on pregnancy here, in case you haven't read those yet or would like to re...
by Elise
Sun Nov 21, 2021 3:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I cant masturbate
Replies: 6
Views: 311

Re: I cant masturbate

Hi there eeeeie, I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with this intense fear about masturbation at the moment, it sounds like something that is causing you quite a bit of distress. A lot of people experience frustration working out what works for them when they are first experimenting with what br...
by Elise
Sun Nov 21, 2021 3:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 298

Re: boyfriend issue?

Hi there Cecilia and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend has been behaving in this way to you: whilst you mention at first that he is "lovely" the way that he is behaving towards you, In terms of the way he is trying to control your weight, eating and coerce you in...
by Elise
Sat Nov 20, 2021 11:06 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Help with Anusol Cream
Replies: 5
Views: 189

Re: Help with Anusol Cream

Hey GS_6 - two positions you can try are to stand, but with one foot on a stool or chair or small box, and the other could be to lay down on your side (on your bed or an excercise mat or similar), with one leg straight and bring the knee of the other towards your chest. If you don't want to worry ab...
by Elise
Fri Nov 19, 2021 1:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 58
Views: 941

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi sky, sounds like your last therapy session was a more challenging one for you, and that is totally okay! Sometimes, it will be hard, particularly as you learn these new skills and being in a new situation like this can be challenging. When we learn new things, they often start off harder as we le...
by Elise
Thu Nov 11, 2021 4:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.
Replies: 6
Views: 257

Re: Love Triangle? Try Octagon.

Hi there spottedowl, I'm glad to hear that chatting with us here on Scarleteen helped you feel heard and that you are able to approach your self-reflection from a place where you feel optimistic and have supportive friendships too. I'm sorry to hear that mean person in middle school decided to say t...
by Elise
Sat Nov 06, 2021 8:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn and hair
Replies: 14
Views: 353

Re: Porn and hair

No worries Otter8, glad you found the articles really useful. To answer your question as to whether all porn is 'fake', as the articles mentioned, porn is made for entertainment, and when you are making a video of any kind for entertainment, it is all constructed, yes. The camera angles, scripts, li...
by Elise
Sat Nov 06, 2021 7:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is this still a healthy relationship?
Replies: 1
Views: 139

Re: Is this still a healthy relationship?

Hi there KatLvr, and welcome to Scarleteen. Pornography use can be a tricky thing to navigate in relationships and in our own ethical and personal feelings about it. What you have outlined here can be broken down into two areas. It is a bit about you both understanding what porn is, and isn't, and q...
by Elise
Sat Nov 06, 2021 4:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 67
Views: 1089

Re: Masterbating

Hi Kyle, it makes sense to feel a bit nervous about doing something that we haven't done before, particularly when its in a medical setting. Sometimes it can help to understand what will happen before we go and that can take away some of the unknown element of things, so I will put some dot points b...
by Elise
Sat Nov 06, 2021 4:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn and hair
Replies: 14
Views: 353

Re: Porn and hair

Hi there Otter8! Regarding your first question about porn, firstly it is great that you are thinking critically about the media you want to engage with, that is a very important thing to keep in mind: what is it's purpose, who is it for, and what is it saying? With porn, you can think of its relatio...
by Elise
Tue Oct 26, 2021 6:21 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 718

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi kokoPeg, welcome to Scarleteen. I had a look at both of your posts, and have approved this one as you mentioned that you prefer the way that you have expressed yourself here, so that there is one thread for this conversation. I'm sorry to hear that you have been feeling some distress whilst tryin...
by Elise
Fri Oct 22, 2021 6:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dating someone older
Replies: 3
Views: 311

Re: Dating someone older

Hi girlplayer34, I'm sorry to hear that this relationship is causing you so much stress, and it is sounding like you are feeling intimidated in a lot of ways by her being older than you. When you are dating someone, trust and feeling safe are really important; as is feeling that you connect mentally...
by Elise
Wed Oct 20, 2021 4:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation fantasies
Replies: 3
Views: 507

Re: masturbation fantasies

Hi there missy5, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling shame about your sexual feelings, sadly there are a lot of sexist messages out there that set double standards for different genders as to what is "acceptable" levels of sexual feeling and activity, and ultimately devalues women who a...
by Elise
Sat Oct 16, 2021 4:12 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: discovering past assault
Replies: 3
Views: 318

Re: discovering past assault

Hi Elias, I'm so glad to hear that Sam's reply was useful to you. She is absolutely right, there is nothing shameful about trying to work out where your thoughts are coming from, and it would be a good idea to bring these up with a trauma therapist when you start seeing one. Talking to your doctor a...
by Elise
Sat Oct 16, 2021 3:56 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My best friend, my crush, and me
Replies: 9
Views: 9948

Re: My best friend, my crush, and me

Hi Elias, that is a really awesome thing that you worked out applying that exercise that worked for you. I'm so happy to hear you're in a good place and have a wonderful friendship in your life. Thank you for sharing this update with us, we're always so happy to hear these kinds of updates.
by Elise
Sat Oct 16, 2021 3:54 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Did I squirt?
Replies: 4
Views: 597

Re: Did I squirt?

Hi Elias, sounds like you've got it right, have a good laundry day!
by Elise
Fri Oct 08, 2021 4:18 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 743

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hi hello_world, yes we have an article about exploring and understanding what brings you pleasure from a whole-body approach, here: I Feel Good: Pleasure and Fulfillment . It also delves into the concept of fulfillment, which you may find useful. After you have a read, let us know what thoughts, que...
by Elise
Fri Oct 08, 2021 3:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexplanations
Replies: 1
Views: 367

Re: Sexplanations

Trigger warning : this post discusses that the book mentioned above contains photos of children that the children themselves could not have consented to. Hi transfemangay, YouTube has removed the unlisted video that shows the book (published in the 1970s), however I can glean from the comments that...
by Elise
Sat Sep 25, 2021 6:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 818

Re: Penis Size

As Sam and others mentioned earlier, it sounds like you're just experiencing one of the ways that a penis can be, the best thing to do is not to force it, and so cause yourself injury, if it starts to get uncomfortable, then don't push it further. As you're in the middle of puberty, there are still ...

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