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by Elise
Mon Jul 26, 2021 4:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused
Replies: 3
Views: 55

Re: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused

Hi there fionaapplelover. You've asked a few great questions here - I am going to address them in order in this reply for clarity :) Firstly, that is not a weird question at all! Your bladder is in the same part of your body as the internal parts of your genitals and sex organs, so pressure on one a...
by Elise
Mon Jul 26, 2021 2:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can't get horny/can't masturbate 🧍‍♀️
Replies: 3
Views: 91

Re: I can't get horny/can't masturbate 🧍‍♀️

Hi there - you replied just fine, though you don't need to quote the whole post if you don't want to! (it's also totally fine if you want to for clarity of what post you're responding to). I'm glad you're open to the idea of giving yourself some time on this, however just wanted to clarify that focu...
by Elise
Sat Jul 24, 2021 2:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can't get horny/can't masturbate 🧍‍♀️
Replies: 3
Views: 91

Re: I can't get horny/can't masturbate 🧍‍♀️

Hi there and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling a lot of frustration around wanting to masturbate and that not working for you right now. Let me firstly start by reassuring you that there is nothing wrong with you, this is an experience a lot of people deal with! It sounds ...
by Elise
Tue Jul 20, 2021 5:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sperm
Replies: 2
Views: 71

Re: sperm

I also just noticed that you asked this question earlier, did you happen to miss the response? No problem if so, if you need a hand finding threads you've made earlier on the boards, let me know and we can give you a hand with that.
by Elise
Tue Jul 20, 2021 5:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sperm
Replies: 2
Views: 71

Re: sperm

Hi there userSG1400, I'm really sorry to hear that you're having a flare up with your ocd, that sounds really tough. I can reassure you that there is no way for your sperm to have "spread all over" the clothing like you describe, nor have survived the washing process. This is because: 1) t...
by Elise
Mon Jul 12, 2021 4:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: what do these words mean?
Replies: 3
Views: 141

Re: what do these words mean?

Hi there OtherAngel, midwives can also be qualified RNs (as may someone is both doula and a midwife). I can't say for sure, but it could be that your friend does this kind of work and that is her preferred professional focus, but may have changed it back on socials if she is worried about the stigma...
by Elise
Sun Jul 11, 2021 3:49 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Possible antidepressant-related sexual problems?
Replies: 1
Views: 99

Re: Possible antidepressant-related sexual problems?

Hi Blue Sky, and thanks for your question! Whilst we aren't medical professionals here and so if you do have any concerns about the side effects of your medication the best person to speak to is your doctor, taking the second and third paragraph of your post alone I'd say your conclusion is very apt...
by Elise
Sun Jul 11, 2021 3:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: can i use they/them pronouns even though im (quite sure) im cis??
Replies: 4
Views: 191

Re: can i use they/them pronouns even though im (quite sure) im cis??

Hi there strawberrysyrup! For pronouns, there are no rules about who can use them and who cannot. In fact, many other cis folks are also comfortable with they/them pronouns, and using them can assist with normalising they/them as a gender neutral option for everyone, and so can be supportive of non-...
by Elise
Mon Jul 05, 2021 5:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 475

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

You're right that our sexual identities can change over time, and you're also totally valid in your own experiences on the aro and ace spectrums, not all people who identify this way are sex repulsed, and there is no one way to be on the ace spectrum. If you're finding your hornier times sometimes d...
by Elise
Mon Jul 05, 2021 4:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 475

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Thanks for explaining that cherryrain, sometimes it can be useful to reflect on the way we talk about ourselves and what that might say about how we're feeling about ourselves or the situation we're in. Sounds like you're finding this quite frustrating that you have to attend to horniness that you e...
by Elise
Mon Jul 05, 2021 3:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation and not doing it right
Replies: 5
Views: 487

Re: Masturbation and not doing it right

Hi blblblbl, I hear you, it can be really frustrating when you feel like you've done everything "right" to relax and it still doesn't go as you hope. Sometimes that is because the pressure that we put on ourselves to get it right adds stress! So, to echo boosterseat, remember you can give ...
by Elise
Sun Jul 04, 2021 5:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 475

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Hi cherryrain, Building on what you said and boosterseat mentioned, are you able to tell me a bit more about why you view your libido as something that you don't want and want to "shut up"? You mention finding it interesting and multi layered in fictions but don't want this for yourself, a...
by Elise
Fri Jul 02, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 7
Views: 441

Re: Validity of identity?

Hi Raffles, I'm so sorry to hear that your coming out experiences have been so disheartening and with people who are either not doing a good enough job at respecting your identity or invalidating it altogether. That is really hard to deal with, and completely valid to feel let down. With regards to ...
by Elise
Fri Jul 02, 2021 5:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?
Replies: 6
Views: 363

Re: How do I know my sexuality if my religion permits premarital relationships?

Hi there browngirl, It sounds like you've been doing some really in depth self-reflection and research about sexuality to better understand yourself, which is a really great. It is also completely normal to be unsure about our sexuality, feel that it can be changeable or in flux, and to not have all...
by Elise
Fri Jun 25, 2021 5:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: QUESTION
Replies: 8
Views: 589

Re: QUESTION

Hi Aarushi257, It is normal for menstrual flow to vary from cycle to cycle, and this is true even if you have an established "regular" period generally. It sounds like you are having a heavier period than usual, and no this would not be caused by pregnancy. A period of 7 days or so is stil...
by Elise
Fri Jun 25, 2021 4:41 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 495

Re: Vagina

Hi jenny01, the "tube" is your vagina, it is essentially a tube made of muscle that forms an internal passage leading from the opening of the vulva to the cervix (the entrance to the uterus). The "g-spot" can also be found in the vagina also, you can read a bit more about it in t...
by Elise
Sat Jun 12, 2021 4:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 3247

Re: question

Hi there Aarushi257, I noticed that you mentioned that you have OCD about pregnancy in a previous thread and recently asked a similar question about sperm a few days ago. How are you doing at the moment? The articles that Emily linked you in your most recent question before this one contain informat...
by Elise
Sat Jun 12, 2021 4:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stuck in the Middle
Replies: 5
Views: 3791

Re: Stuck in the Middle

Hi Jenny01, whilst it can be a lot and frustrating to hear what your friend is saying right now, it is important to be mindful that while you can see things at an arms length and the logic of it all, right now it sounds like your friend is hurting a lot as this is a very new and raw emotional hurt. ...
by Elise
Fri Jun 11, 2021 3:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 3562

Re: Foreskin

Talking to a doctor about your genitals and sex can feel really daunting the first time, it can help to remember that they are trained about this kind of thing and want to help you, and not make you feel embarrassed, in a similar kind of way to how we're able to talk to you about things here, does t...
by Elise
Sat Jun 05, 2021 5:42 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 3350

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, chiming to add a voice of support. You have a great level of self awareness which is the first step at dealing with compulsive behaviours. I can certainly identify with taking the "path of least resistance" as an avoidant coping mechanism, particularly in situations of stress....
by Elise
Wed Jun 02, 2021 2:39 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about people you know?
Replies: 1
Views: 1845

Re: Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about people you know?

Hi sarabuckett, and welcome to Scarleteen! It is not unusual at all for people to have sexual fantasies about other people they know, consciously or unconsciously, so there is nothing that you should feel bad or guilty about. The fact that you are considering your friends' feelings and how best to t...
by Elise
Wed May 26, 2021 3:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 8949

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90, yes, the article The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method shows you the math on how this works. Using two methods together, even when highly effective on their own, reduce the risk of pregnancy even more, as the chance of both methods...
by Elise
Sat May 22, 2021 5:32 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Locker rooms & anxiety
Replies: 1
Views: 7213

Re: Locker rooms & anxiety

Hi confusedhuman, firstly, congratulations on being vaccinated! Secondly, I'd just like to say that I'm sorry that we still live in a society where trans and gender diverse people have to manage other's discomfort around accessing facilities that conform to their gender identity, despite this access...
by Elise
Fri May 21, 2021 5:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 8949

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90, yes, there's no need to add more methods, you're doing great Using withdrawal in addition to the pill and a condom isn't really adding anything (its like diminishing returns if you're familiar with the concept from economics), so if you prefer to keep doing that you can, however if you...
by Elise
Fri May 21, 2021 5:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders
Replies: 7
Views: 5257

Re: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders

Hello potatochipeater - just chiming in here to add another couple of titles to these great recs from Heather, Sam W and boosterseat: ⋅ Mady G. and J.R. Zuckerberg: A Quick and Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities (a comic book that would suit teens, including younger teens). ⋅&nb...

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