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by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how can I find other teens who want to try BDSM?
Replies: 3
Views: 1155

Re: how can I find other teens who want to try BDSM?

Hi there Tbh Idk, and welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry to hear that you are feeling stress about judgement at the moment. With something like sexual preferences around how an individual likes to do or dislikes (whether that's something labelled as kink, or as simple where someone enjoys being touched or...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:30 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 221

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi there Cassidy, I'm really glad to hear that you feel a real sense of trust and emotional intimacy with your partner, and that giving pleasure is something you are enjoying for its own sake rather than out of obligation. When you say you do other things together, have you tried having your partner...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:27 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: can i be a lesbian if im sexually attracted to guys?
Replies: 7
Views: 346

Re: can i be a lesbian if im sexually attracted to guys?

Hi there skzly, good to hear from you on this thread, and that you've been doing some research and self reflection. Also glad to hear that you have some great LGBTQI+ friends around you, that is great. I'm sorry to hear that this is a really frustrating feeling for you at the moment, you're totally ...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 3:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 9
Views: 313

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi there Irissy, I'm really sorry to hear that your dad is holding these incorrect notions about virginity (it is really a social construct, you can read more about it here ), and inhibiting your capacity to get healthcare at the moment. However, there are some ways at your age to see a GP alone, an...
by Elise
Wed Jan 12, 2022 2:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 63
Views: 1373

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi there Theansweris42, no need to apologise, it's definitely more than fine to say "I am having trouble with this thing and I'm not sure how to deal with it", and you don't need to phrase it any more directly than that for us to offer advice and resources, and also ask question prompts to...
by Elise
Wed Jan 12, 2022 2:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Chances of getting pregnant with Nexplanon and condoms?
Replies: 1
Views: 62

Re: Chances of getting pregnant with Nexplanon and condoms?

Hi there wombats11, and welcome to Scarleteen. Firstly, whilst I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with a phobia, I am glad to hear that you have discussed this with a therapist, and that they are helping you work through this, that is a massive first step so well done for doing that and getting s...
by Elise
Sat Jan 08, 2022 6:06 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 63
Views: 1373

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi Theansweris42, as mentioned earlier it sounds like you have a lot of self-awareness, which is great, but can also lead to a bit of overthinking, sometimes - in part this is something that can lead to when we "try" to do something with a great deal of effort, that we focus on observing i...
by Elise
Fri Jan 07, 2022 3:26 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 63
Views: 1373

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi there Theansweris42, firstly, no need to apologise for talking about friendships here 😊. We talk about relationships and sexuality here, and as friendships are important relationships! And really is at the core of any deep relationship, sexual or not. Therefore, we think it is awesome and a highl...
by Elise
Fri Jan 07, 2022 3:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 23
Views: 1214

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi there kokoPeg, and welcome back. I'm sorry to hear that whilst your dysphoria is alleviated (which is good to hear, in-and-of-itself, do you know what helped lead to this), that you are feeling a lot of shame at the moment. This is a theme that has come up a few times for you in this thread. A wh...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 3:52 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 16
Views: 8340

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

Hi Guacamole, one of the reasons it can be useful to think about pressure (whether it's society's, or our own to achieve something), is that the brain is our most important sex organ, and feeling stressed or frustrated about masturbation and reaching pleasure/orgasm can be counter to our goals as it...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 3:25 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 106
Views: 2345

Re: Masterbating

Okay, so the main other things that need to happen are: When the ejaculation happens, the penis doing the ejaculating needs to be inside the vaginal opening, or ejaculate very directly unto the vulva, as the semen need the environment of the vaginal canal to swim in and to survive (a bit like how we...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 2:05 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I don't want to wait to be on a dating site
Replies: 1
Views: 96

Re: I don't want to wait to be on a dating site

Hi there Pansexualpannda, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm really sorry to hear that your circumstances are really rough at the moment, and that you really want to connect with people who are like you and understand you. Many of us have been there - here on our forums can be a great place to talk out ...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 9:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: quick question
Replies: 1
Views: 135

Re: quick question

Hi lycheefan, as you have recently started the pill, it is important to note that your body is setting up a pattern of how it will respond to it. Some people get heavier ones than others, and some people don't get one at all. Why the information you are finding is inconsistent is likely because some...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 8:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trust Issues
Replies: 3
Views: 270

Re: Trust Issues

Hi these Somesh, Sorry to hear that you are experiencing a lot of anxiety around this at the moment. I am glad to hear you were able to have an open conversation about this with your girlfriend, so that you both are on the same page with regards to sex and risk. With anxieties, sometimes even when w...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:38 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Insecurities
Replies: 4
Views: 102

Re: Insecurities

Hi there dq15, sorry to hear that this is something that you are finding stressful at the moment. It is something that a lot of people with penises worry about; a lot of the messages that advertising and "society" say about what it means to be a "man" are exaggerated and unrealis...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: BC pill
Replies: 3
Views: 128

Re: BC pill

Hi omnomnonny, it is pretty likely that your pill is back to providing its contraceptive effects after the missed day, however do check the information leaflet that comes in the box for your particular one to see their instructions on how to handle a missed pill for the kind you take, and how long t...
by Elise
Mon Dec 27, 2021 1:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice for texting/talking to cute guy
Replies: 3
Views: 190

Re: Advice for texting/talking to cute guy

Hi Hel, it is exciting when you meet someone who makes you feel this way! One thing it can help to think about is that beyond being respectful and honest, there is no single "right" way to start communicating with someone new that you like. If you find texting better, it is absolutely fine...
by Elise
Mon Dec 27, 2021 12:52 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 9
Views: 254

Re: Learning to open up

Hi Raffles, you can rest assured that having boundaries and trying to see how people will respect them is okay, particularly as you've have people in your life not respect those in the past. We actually have an article about intimacy on Scarleteen (and as you mention, trusting someone in and buildin...
by Elise
Mon Dec 27, 2021 12:28 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 106
Views: 2345

Re: Masterbating

Hi there Kyleg2007, yes the article then explains why talking about average sizes for people yet to complete puberty, like yourself, isn't useful, the first paragraph after the list of user questions says: "We are often asked what the average penis size is for, say, a 15-year-old. The trouble i...
by Elise
Mon Dec 27, 2021 12:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is this normal T_T
Replies: 7
Views: 240

Re: is this normal T_T

Hi lycheefan, thanks for adding that context. Could it be that your boyfriend doesn't like Valorant, and is feeling angry that you like something that he doesn't, and is feeling confronted/insecure with this idea, and that is coming out as an angry feeling? As you mentioned, some games are for some ...
by Elise
Sat Dec 18, 2021 3:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I take Yasmin with Amoxicillin tablets?
Replies: 3
Views: 120

Re: Can I take Yasmin with Amoxicillin tablets?

Hi Juliaho90, whilst it is best to ask at the clinic about the interaction between all your medications, current research seems to indicate that amoxicillin, and most other common antibiotics don't interact with birth control for most people. You can read more about this here: Something You Can Worr...
by Elise
Sat Dec 18, 2021 3:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Regretting a threesome with my boyfriend
Replies: 16
Views: 18506

Re: Regretting a threesome with my boyfriend

Hi there Rach931105, you're right that adding someone new to a sexual relationship can bring up a lot of complicated feelings. Therefore this is important to consider, including how they as a person, would factor into this. There are a few things you can unpack here about non-monogamy, communication...
by Elise
Sat Dec 18, 2021 2:54 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I've never trusted anyone with my heart
Replies: 9
Views: 223

Re: I've never trusted anyone with my heart

Hi there girlplayer34, this is actually a really common anxiety that people have who come to sex and dating in their 20s. Whilst it may seem daunting, I can reassure that with communication and trust (which is really needed regardless of the experience of either partner in a sexual relationship), ma...
by Elise
Sat Dec 18, 2021 2:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My girlfriends Vagina is so tight I fear
Replies: 2
Views: 399

Re: My girlfriends Vagina is so tight I fear

Hi there TakeControl, and welcome to Scarleteen. You are correct that it takes a lot of self-control and bodily control to use the withdrawal method properly, the difficulty you describe yourself having with this method is an experience many have, and you can read more about it on this page, here . ...
by Elise
Fri Dec 17, 2021 3:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?
Replies: 23
Views: 764

Re: I recently found out that my boyfriend had masturbated to a photo of his ex gf’s sister what do I do?

Hi there rahrah300, with regards to this update, thank you for sharing that both you and your boyfriend have anxiety disorders that you are working through, as this is good to keep in mind as you navigate this situation together. How would you feel about, rather than ruminating on details of this in...

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