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by Elise
Tue Jan 25, 2022 7:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I feel nothing when I touch myself
Replies: 9
Views: 357

Re: I feel nothing when I touch myself

Hi there Calimint, glad to hear your exploration is going in a positive direction. As Sam as the article said, exploring the things that feel good and seeing where that goes is a good low-pressure way to see how what you like best and feel more comfortable with masturbating. The soreness you mention...
by Elise
Tue Jan 25, 2022 7:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of Having Vaginismus
Replies: 5
Views: 215

Re: Fear of Having Vaginismus

Hi there rocko, as Sam mentioned, going to a sexual healthcare provider is a good idea if you're feeling that there might be a physical factor at play, even just to put your mind at ease. Is there a Planned Parenthood in your area? We can also assist with referrals if you're comfortable with telling...
by Elise
Tue Jan 25, 2022 6:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I Aromantic?
Replies: 3
Views: 153

Re: Am I Aromantic?

Hi there rocko, it can be good to remember that as there is a real spectrum of being aro, as you allude to in your first post. It is totally okay to have a feeling of where you are roughly on the spectrum and what you feel okay with and not for now, and not have to specifically define it. Also, it's...
by Elise
Tue Jan 25, 2022 6:42 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 34
Views: 1155

Re: Friend

Hi there Theansweris42, it can be a very normal thing to believe things we have been thinking or feeling more when someone else, particularly someone that we respect or trust says them, this is called "validation" and is an important part of human connection, however learning to trust ours...
by Elise
Sat Jan 22, 2022 5:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 34
Views: 1155

Re: Friend

Hi there Theansweris42, I'm glad to hear that the comic Sam shared helped. Feeling anxious and self doubting can be really powerful feelings and tricky to work through, so please don't feel discouraged if this is a challenge to work through and takes some time to put into practice. When it comes to ...
by Elise
Sat Jan 22, 2022 4:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 23
Views: 859

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Hi there waterhyacinth, firstly let me start by echoing Sam, you really do deserve so much better than this, and whilst it seems quite confronting an idea at the moment, you will be able to get through this. With the idea of being "alone", whilst it can seem like that would be the case, ab...
by Elise
Sat Jan 22, 2022 3:32 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 114
Views: 2864

Re: Masterbating

Hi Kyleg2007, what Sofi was explaining means that this sensation doesn't mean that you're about to ejaculate, but the pre-ejaculate is part of your body getting ready to ejaculate if the stimulation from masturbation continues and keeps feeling good. That's why it can go back down if you were to sto...
by Elise
Sat Jan 22, 2022 3:20 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: asking to use lube without embarrassing anyone?
Replies: 3
Views: 214

Re: asking to use lube without embarrassing anyone?

Hi dollparties, it is very normal to nervous when asking about something that feels a bit vulnerable, which as something quite intimate, sex and things we might need and want for it, can often feel that way. You are right that it is not "needy" at all to ask for lube, and your idea to expl...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how can I find other teens who want to try BDSM?
Replies: 3
Views: 1239

Re: how can I find other teens who want to try BDSM?

Hi there Tbh Idk, and welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry to hear that you are feeling stress about judgement at the moment. With something like sexual preferences around how an individual likes to do or dislikes (whether that's something labelled as kink, or as simple where someone enjoys being touched or...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:30 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 276

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi there Cassidy, I'm really glad to hear that you feel a real sense of trust and emotional intimacy with your partner, and that giving pleasure is something you are enjoying for its own sake rather than out of obligation. When you say you do other things together, have you tried having your partner...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 4:27 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: can i be a lesbian if im sexually attracted to guys?
Replies: 7
Views: 406

Re: can i be a lesbian if im sexually attracted to guys?

Hi there skzly, good to hear from you on this thread, and that you've been doing some research and self reflection. Also glad to hear that you have some great LGBTQI+ friends around you, that is great. I'm sorry to hear that this is a really frustrating feeling for you at the moment, you're totally ...
by Elise
Sun Jan 16, 2022 3:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 9
Views: 376

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi there Irissy, I'm really sorry to hear that your dad is holding these incorrect notions about virginity (it is really a social construct, you can read more about it here ), and inhibiting your capacity to get healthcare at the moment. However, there are some ways at your age to see a GP alone, an...
by Elise
Wed Jan 12, 2022 2:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1658

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi there Theansweris42, no need to apologise, it's definitely more than fine to say "I am having trouble with this thing and I'm not sure how to deal with it", and you don't need to phrase it any more directly than that for us to offer advice and resources, and also ask question prompts to...
by Elise
Wed Jan 12, 2022 2:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Chances of getting pregnant with Nexplanon and condoms?
Replies: 1
Views: 119

Re: Chances of getting pregnant with Nexplanon and condoms?

Hi there wombats11, and welcome to Scarleteen. Firstly, whilst I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with a phobia, I am glad to hear that you have discussed this with a therapist, and that they are helping you work through this, that is a massive first step so well done for doing that and getting s...
by Elise
Sat Jan 08, 2022 6:06 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1658

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi Theansweris42, as mentioned earlier it sounds like you have a lot of self-awareness, which is great, but can also lead to a bit of overthinking, sometimes - in part this is something that can lead to when we "try" to do something with a great deal of effort, that we focus on observing i...
by Elise
Fri Jan 07, 2022 3:26 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1658

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi there Theansweris42, firstly, no need to apologise for talking about friendships here 😊. We talk about relationships and sexuality here, and as friendships are important relationships! And really is at the core of any deep relationship, sexual or not. Therefore, we think it is awesome and a highl...
by Elise
Fri Jan 07, 2022 3:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 25
Views: 1404

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi there kokoPeg, and welcome back. I'm sorry to hear that whilst your dysphoria is alleviated (which is good to hear, in-and-of-itself, do you know what helped lead to this), that you are feeling a lot of shame at the moment. This is a theme that has come up a few times for you in this thread. A wh...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 3:52 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 16
Views: 8719

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

Hi Guacamole, one of the reasons it can be useful to think about pressure (whether it's society's, or our own to achieve something), is that the brain is our most important sex organ, and feeling stressed or frustrated about masturbation and reaching pleasure/orgasm can be counter to our goals as it...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 3:25 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 114
Views: 2864

Re: Masterbating

Okay, so the main other things that need to happen are: When the ejaculation happens, the penis doing the ejaculating needs to be inside the vaginal opening, or ejaculate very directly unto the vulva, as the semen need the environment of the vaginal canal to swim in and to survive (a bit like how we...
by Elise
Sat Jan 01, 2022 2:05 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I don't want to wait to be on a dating site
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: I don't want to wait to be on a dating site

Hi there Pansexualpannda, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm really sorry to hear that your circumstances are really rough at the moment, and that you really want to connect with people who are like you and understand you. Many of us have been there - here on our forums can be a great place to talk out ...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 9:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: quick question
Replies: 1
Views: 148

Re: quick question

Hi lycheefan, as you have recently started the pill, it is important to note that your body is setting up a pattern of how it will respond to it. Some people get heavier ones than others, and some people don't get one at all. Why the information you are finding is inconsistent is likely because some...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 8:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trust Issues
Replies: 3
Views: 348

Re: Trust Issues

Hi these Somesh, Sorry to hear that you are experiencing a lot of anxiety around this at the moment. I am glad to hear you were able to have an open conversation about this with your girlfriend, so that you both are on the same page with regards to sex and risk. With anxieties, sometimes even when w...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:38 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Insecurities
Replies: 4
Views: 119

Re: Insecurities

Hi there dq15, sorry to hear that this is something that you are finding stressful at the moment. It is something that a lot of people with penises worry about; a lot of the messages that advertising and "society" say about what it means to be a "man" are exaggerated and unrealis...
by Elise
Wed Dec 29, 2021 7:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: BC pill
Replies: 3
Views: 140

Re: BC pill

Hi omnomnonny, it is pretty likely that your pill is back to providing its contraceptive effects after the missed day, however do check the information leaflet that comes in the box for your particular one to see their instructions on how to handle a missed pill for the kind you take, and how long t...
by Elise
Mon Dec 27, 2021 1:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice for texting/talking to cute guy
Replies: 3
Views: 234

Re: Advice for texting/talking to cute guy

Hi Hel, it is exciting when you meet someone who makes you feel this way! One thing it can help to think about is that beyond being respectful and honest, there is no single "right" way to start communicating with someone new that you like. If you find texting better, it is absolutely fine...

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