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by Sabine
Tue Sep 29, 2020 9:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I know it hurts, but I will accept that her desire for me is less than mine for her (at least right now). It especially hurts because I was still close to getting a girlfriend that actually liked me back and I liked. I still would like to be friends with her. So, yeah its hard for me not to talk abo...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 1:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Also I have this idea, maybe I am feeding it in more. Why not write a letter to my crush? Like not send it to her, but send it for myself? Maybe one day, she can see it. And also maybe in the DBT worksheet there are suggestions to carry someone you like as a picture and ask that someone what to do, ...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 12:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thank you so much for these responses. I also know that sometimes my Mom can be pushy on certain things, especially on certain times. So I will try these strategies. That being said, I do need to improve my health, my creative stuff and goals I want to accomplish. Also, I want to compromise too and ...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 12:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I also guess I need to work on loving myself too before I need to love myself which I know because people tell me over and over and over again. These stressful times don’t help and I don’t know if this is more pressure for me to love myself. How do I do this? How do I prove to my parents I love myse...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 12:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Those are amazing questions to identify that. And now how do I address it? I think I want to do that, but they could say and within a number of moods: - “You are young, you clearly haven’t lived life” - “No, just (rambles on about stuff)” - “Just please consider it” - “What it would be like if you w...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 10:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yes indeed. Yes, I really want to do that. But how do I say that and convince them of those things? Yes, I do. I really would love to cover them. I also found the REST strategy is very helpful as well. R is regulate, E is evaluate, S is set intentions and T is Take Actions. I also need to look at my...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 10:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I want to use both online dating and in real life outings. But I am hesitant to mostly date in real life because of the distance factor and because of what I perceive as socially inappropriate behavior (being too loud, talking too much ... etc). Plus, going into a new space is hard, considering my e...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 10:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Its okay to pop in, totally. :D And yes, we came to that conclusion. But in terms of going out, going out. I don’t know why my hesitancy. I know that the circumstances are the big thing, but I could end up anywhere so this defeats the purpose. And I don’t want to make wrong impressions to the commun...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 28, 2020 9:18 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Well in terms of fearing me being in a relationship would make people unhappy, I wouldn’t want people to be happy, yet jealous just like me secretly when other people have relationships. Also, it harkens back to the guy who was jealous when I was taking my friend to the prom and not him. I want othe...
by Sabine
Sun Sep 27, 2020 11:41 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

And also you know, I really want to be free from this recent pain brought on, but I don’t know how. I have this aversion now (even though I want to) to go out because of the possibility of removing an app and many other things (its not what I am use too). And If I get a girlfriend in Vienna or date ...
by Sabine
Sun Sep 27, 2020 9:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I know that the app is not related to San Fransisco in no way, but for some reason that’s what I choose for my symbolic anchor. For me, I’m stuck for moving forward (in what stage, idk, but I do know that I will go to college) and staying in some kind of anchor in the Bay Area. I have had that conve...
by Sabine
Sat Sep 26, 2020 12:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, thank you so much for clarifying that. I will keep that in my head. A non-response definition : She checks instagram and/or dating app and leaves me on read. Is that a good definition? How do I make it clear to my parents without them thinking my OCD is getting in the way? Well, I’m not good a...
by Sabine
Sat Sep 26, 2020 9:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do

I am not having a hard time doing that, we are just busy right now. Its the hotlines I am having trouble texting and calling, since the time zones are confused. I direct my energy mostly towards school and working on schoolwork. But I mostly do Animal Crossing and Just Dance. I make rings too and wa...
by Sabine
Sat Sep 26, 2020 8:49 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I’m also envious and jealous that my sister has someone to talk to before bedtime and I barely have anyone to talk to as well. Like FaceTime or video call, thats what I mean by talking consistently, almost every night. I barely have any of that, I want that. I feel like I have to earn it and I can’t...
by Sabine
Sat Sep 26, 2020 8:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I don’t want to loose control, I really don’t. But I feel like a rollercoaster going down down down, first my location, then my home, then my program, then my psychologists, then my class I really wanted, now maybe my engagement with the app and my social life as I want it ...
by Sabine
Sat Sep 26, 2020 7:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I did. Calling them or texting in Austria can be quite tricky! Also, I do need some searching for a psychologist because I had a really hard night and morning in terms of my crush and the process of letting go and getting into crushes on the app. I have to let her go! I really do. My parents say tha...
by Sabine
Wed Sep 23, 2020 3:26 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

That’s true. I’m a perfectionist sometimes and afraid of rejection, but still keep trying, as stupid as that may be. Again, I direct it inward because I don’t know how to deal with uncertainty and what might have caused it. But also, there may be a chance to improve myself so that people (and especi...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 22, 2020 1:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Meeting people in real life is also really difficult, especially with todays environment and how Vienna is looking. I’m also scared of just getting info off of random people in a club like Villa Vida, which is when I went to the Queens Brunch because I am afraid that we may fall out of contact or th...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 22, 2020 8:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I will. Hopefully, the mods will notice my post. Worst part is that he noticed my posts on him. I shouldn’t have done it, should have dealt with it privately, but ... he kept texting ... I know how to spot red flags and boundaries, its for me to actually do it because I don’t have to be friend...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 22, 2020 8:19 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I am cautious about reporting them since ether technically didn’t send any nudes. But I want to share it with the mods. I made a post and the person notice (called themselves, he but wants to be a trans lesbian and “likes” to trans people and lesbians). I suggested they seek help multiple times, but...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 22, 2020 6:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I also should mention that I sent the message and that I won’t send anymore. But, I am a little worried about it, but trying so hard to let it go even when distraction doesn’t work. Again, the reason that could be that she is having social media break along with being busy can be helpful. My anxiety...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 22, 2020 1:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thanks so much for the advice! I love how you said that it’s all about consent and I’m trying to obey the rules of consent. And I know a video chat doesn’t guarantee a relationship, so does flirting. Thats why I should ask, but my parents say I shouldn’t right now and they are right. And just becaus...
by Sabine
Fri Sep 18, 2020 1:47 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I really want to do that. That can be great. I was thinking along the lines of “Hey, heard that the wildfires are bad. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always video chat with me! however, I understand as you are busy with your sister. Please let me know if you ever want to.” Or is ...
by Sabine
Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Also, I am debating whether to invite her again to video chat and then ask her her feelings and tell her mine or tell her how I feel how I fell in the same message as the other ones I wanted to tell her (if I should include them). I want to say this because I may not get the chance to video chat wit...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 2:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 4813

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I can understand that. I really do. Got rejected last time by a girl because she was so busy. And at least I want to casually date her, but I really want a romantic connection. I cannot have a sexual relationship right now because the distance (she totally accepted it and was cool with it). I ...

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