Hypothetically, if you touched/picked a coldsore on your face and then touched your genitals how screwed would you be in terms of 'potentially transmitting the oral variant to the genital region'? In case 'hypothetically' wasn't a clue, yeah, I'm a little anxious about "what if I gave myself so...

My bad, will try for conciseness this time, it was 50/50 on the 'vent about anything and everything'. Translating/cutting out the fluff: * I still feel essentially the same as when I made the thread, re: not being able to do sexual texting (with typing out pretend characters) like I used to, which f...

Dunno how relevant bumping this is. I have more of a handle on things as of late (gonna finally access a debit card at some point, go me) but it also feels like a lot of unrelated things are piling up on me (friend has a lump in breast that'll take two weeks to be seen to + friend got kicked out of ...

Pretty much all of those examples can qualify as assault to be honest. If it was 'difficult for him to control fully' he could have just honoured your wishes by not having sex (and not sneaking it by you because he knew you would say no). You didn't say yes, you told him no in all instances. One no ...

Nothing new/substantial to add, I pretty much never do anything to improve my situation and wish the people responsible would stop being abusive and just leave instead, just aimlessly venting because I tried to get diagnosed with ADD and I was bringing up the RSD component and...I don't know the exa...

I'm sorry you experienced that and that everyone involved let you down so badly. I'm not sure how to go about telling him beyond maybe something like email would be an idea if face to face interaction would be difficult. Ultimately if he responds poorly it's best to get that out of the way before th...

That doing stuff without your own pleasure in mind is a great idea. It's...really not? Not great at articulation right now but the whole "guys only want one thing, if you have sex 'too soon' they'll use you and leave, if you have it 'too late' they'll also leave somehow", "wife duties...

I made the mistake of clicking that yahoo link and holy shit those responses are awful, I'm sorry. None of the people responding know what they're talking about and honestly sound like they shouldn't have sex themselves, being on tinder/inviting a person into the home is not automatic consent. You s...

...aw man the "take a pause at the least" makes so much sense to the point I remember doing that in the past with a different person and it basically worked :| welp. I think some of the identifiable patterns is if a character isn't super explicitly going "sign me the fuck up to this s...

Bump because I think the edit timed out (or because I can't find an edit button, wouldn't put it past me) but how does one tell the difference between "just anxiety, push through" and "anxiety is actually a sign to abandon ship in this specific situation"? It gets increasingly di...

Thanks for the response, I forget its' not early o' clock outside of my region - will take a while to process this. What you're saying makes sense, I think I'm just so hung up on "but I want things to be like they were and good and fun and accessible without any weirdness or inconvenience all t...

Tl;dr: trying to...let's say sexting someone online, but for the second time in a row I've felt too anxious to continue and had to cancel. Its' frustrating me a lot, I have some identifiable patterns/reasons why but not the whole picture and I don't know what to do. It sounds pretty small-potatoes ...

Suppose. And dunno, I guess I've had not-good experience in people making up facets of their identity online so it sets off a "why would they do that, what's going on" feeling of unease for me. The two examples I recall are...I don't recall the first username but there was a thread that go...

Huh, okay. I can't give examples without getting into 'look at <specific username>' in a public post territory so I'll leave it as a mystery thing.

I notice sometimes the age listed on peoples' profiles changes, why is that? I don't mean "oh they got older" but dramatic increases or decreases in age, like over a decades' worth. What's going on there?

There's nothing immediately coming to mind, I think over the years I've maybe posted "yeah this sounds abusive" to advice threads for example. I can think of one occasion hearing screaming (it sounded like a kid being more disruptive than anything but it was lasting a bit too long) and goi...

Repeatedly trying to pressure you into sex, wearing you down into 'agreeing' to it and everything else qualifies as it in my eyes yeah. (The thing about wall-punching is the whole point of it is its' essentially a threat display to show how violent a person can get, even if he didn't do it in front ...

Yikes that sucks. Kind of feels like the guy is using the go-between dynamic to pressure her more tbh. (Why is he firing off a 'look at my sad lowercase letters' spiel and going on about how inattentive she supposedly is to a mod/mutual friend in the first place?) Stopping the go-between role sounds...

With the way condoms are designed poking a hole in it would make it shred/notably tear as you put it on (mods feel free to correct me on this one). Its' more likely that the condom just failed due to imperfect use rather than any sabotage going on. But yeah, tampering with/lying about contraceptives...

If it helps people with down syndrome have come out as saying that the idea they can't have relationships or are 'mentally children' is patronizing as hell. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAPmGW-GDHA Also found this webpage on down syndrome+sex education basically - the consensus I got from it was ...

Don't want to be alarmist on you but living with someone that tried to sexually abuse you (and, well, did) isn't really a sustainable situation. He's not tried anything yet but he knows what he can get away with in terms of having his behaviour handwaved by the other adult in the situation. If their...

Yeah it does read as sexual abuse to be honest. Its' not uncommon for abusers to try and start off with borderline stuff and escalate like that. (Touching your knees and then heading to your thighs like he did - its' not uncommon for them to use normal physical contact like a piggyback ride as a smo...

Yeah sorry about that, I'll get to editing the post now. I should've considered the userbase there before acting like an edgelord jerk. Will get to reading the rest of your post eventually but wanted to note that part down first. Edit: so yeah I did a lot of stuff today and turns out I can't edit th...

So yeah this is pretty much my vent box I update whenever a new problem comes to me. I think I'm coping a lot better with the PO/CD thing, it still flares up with new recollections of bullshit but I think going through the Mark Freeman content (He does youtube and tumblr) made things better. I kind ...

(For the purposes of context erp = erotic roleplay, rp = roleplay. I'm still not at a point where I'm ready for actual sex or find it all that accessible yet) Oh boy, this'll be complicated. The problem is the stuff I wish I'd learned sooner is stuff that isn't easily to fit concisely into a leaflet...