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by Iwanthelp
Tue Jul 24, 2018 5:39 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can you spread your own herpes to yourself?
Replies: 1
Views: 1765

Can you spread your own herpes to yourself?

Hypothetically, if you touched/picked a coldsore on your face and then touched your genitals how screwed would you be in terms of 'potentially transmitting the oral variant to the genital region'? In case 'hypothetically' wasn't a clue, yeah, I'm a little anxious about "what if I gave myself so...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Mar 12, 2018 4:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Re: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

My bad, will try for conciseness this time, it was 50/50 on the 'vent about anything and everything'. Translating/cutting out the fluff: * I still feel essentially the same as when I made the thread, re: not being able to do sexual texting (with typing out pretend characters) like I used to, which f...
by Iwanthelp
Sun Mar 11, 2018 4:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Re: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

Dunno how relevant bumping this is. I have more of a handle on things as of late (gonna finally access a debit card at some point, go me) but it also feels like a lot of unrelated things are piling up on me (friend has a lump in breast that'll take two weeks to be seen to + friend got kicked out of ...
by Iwanthelp
Thu Feb 01, 2018 6:38 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Did my boyfriend sexually assault me?
Replies: 4
Views: 2241

Re: Did my boyfriend sexually assault me?

Pretty much all of those examples can qualify as assault to be honest. If it was 'difficult for him to control fully' he could have just honoured your wishes by not having sex (and not sneaking it by you because he knew you would say no). You didn't say yes, you told him no in all instances. One no ...
by Iwanthelp
Tue Nov 21, 2017 1:02 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)
Replies: 49
Views: 18479

Re: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)

Nothing new/substantial to add, I pretty much never do anything to improve my situation and wish the people responsible would stop being abusive and just leave instead, just aimlessly venting because I tried to get diagnosed with ADD and I was bringing up the RSD component and...I don't know the exa...
by Iwanthelp
Sat Nov 04, 2017 2:35 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Rape and Fiance
Replies: 33
Views: 6336

Re: Rape and Fiance

I'm sorry you experienced that and that everyone involved let you down so badly. I'm not sure how to go about telling him beyond maybe something like email would be an idea if face to face interaction would be difficult. Ultimately if he responds poorly it's best to get that out of the way before th...
by Iwanthelp
Thu Nov 02, 2017 4:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: If you could do away with one myth about sex and sexuality, what would it be?
Replies: 2
Views: 1540

Re: If you could do away with one myth about sex and sexuality, what would it be?

That doing stuff without your own pleasure in mind is a great idea. It's...really not? Not great at articulation right now but the whole "guys only want one thing, if you have sex 'too soon' they'll use you and leave, if you have it 'too late' they'll also leave somehow", "wife duties...
by Iwanthelp
Tue Oct 24, 2017 11:04 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Assault?
Replies: 61
Views: 11103

Re: Assault?

I made the mistake of clicking that yahoo link and holy shit those responses are awful, I'm sorry. None of the people responding know what they're talking about and honestly sound like they shouldn't have sex themselves, being on tinder/inviting a person into the home is not automatic consent. You s...
by Iwanthelp
Sat Oct 21, 2017 11:51 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Re: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

...aw man the "take a pause at the least" makes so much sense to the point I remember doing that in the past with a different person and it basically worked :| welp. I think some of the identifiable patterns is if a character isn't super explicitly going "sign me the fuck up to this s...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Oct 20, 2017 6:21 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Re: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

Bump because I think the edit timed out (or because I can't find an edit button, wouldn't put it past me) but how does one tell the difference between "just anxiety, push through" and "anxiety is actually a sign to abandon ship in this specific situation"? It gets increasingly di...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Oct 20, 2017 5:13 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Re: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

Thanks for the response, I forget its' not early o' clock outside of my region - will take a while to process this. What you're saying makes sense, I think I'm just so hung up on "but I want things to be like they were and good and fun and accessible without any weirdness or inconvenience all t...
by Iwanthelp
Fri Oct 20, 2017 4:23 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me
Replies: 10
Views: 3118

Trying to do sexual text things but anxiety keeps interrupting me

Tl;dr: trying to...let's say sexting someone online, but for the second time in a row I've felt too anxious to continue and had to cancel. Its' frustrating me a lot, I have some identifiable patterns/reasons why but not the whole picture and I don't know what to do. It sounds pretty small-potatoes ...
by Iwanthelp
Tue Oct 17, 2017 3:57 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question regarding site profiles
Replies: 5
Views: 1655

Re: Question regarding site profiles

Suppose. And dunno, I guess I've had not-good experience in people making up facets of their identity online so it sets off a "why would they do that, what's going on" feeling of unease for me. The two examples I recall are...I don't recall the first username but there was a thread that go...
by Iwanthelp
Tue Oct 17, 2017 3:24 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question regarding site profiles
Replies: 5
Views: 1655

Re: Question regarding site profiles

Huh, okay. I can't give examples without getting into 'look at <specific username>' in a public post territory so I'll leave it as a mystery thing.
by Iwanthelp
Tue Oct 17, 2017 6:07 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question regarding site profiles
Replies: 5
Views: 1655

Question regarding site profiles

I notice sometimes the age listed on peoples' profiles changes, why is that? I don't mean "oh they got older" but dramatic increases or decreases in age, like over a decades' worth. What's going on there?
by Iwanthelp
Wed Oct 04, 2017 3:10 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Speaking Up When We See Abuse
Replies: 3
Views: 2210

Re: Speaking Up When We See Abuse

There's nothing immediately coming to mind, I think over the years I've maybe posted "yeah this sounds abusive" to advice threads for example. I can think of one occasion hearing screaming (it sounded like a kid being more disruptive than anything but it was lasting a bit too long) and goi...
by Iwanthelp
Thu Sep 07, 2017 4:20 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not sure if what happened was abuse
Replies: 13
Views: 3807

Re: Not sure if what happened was abuse

Repeatedly trying to pressure you into sex, wearing you down into 'agreeing' to it and everything else qualifies as it in my eyes yeah. (The thing about wall-punching is the whole point of it is its' essentially a threat display to show how violent a person can get, even if he didn't do it in front ...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Sep 04, 2017 11:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Online friends in a seemingly toxic relationship, I don't know what to do
Replies: 2
Views: 1134

Re: Online friends in a seemingly toxic relationship, I don't know what to do

Yikes that sucks. Kind of feels like the guy is using the go-between dynamic to pressure her more tbh. (Why is he firing off a 'look at my sad lowercase letters' spiel and going on about how inattentive she supposedly is to a mod/mutual friend in the first place?) Stopping the go-between role sounds...
by Iwanthelp
Sat Aug 26, 2017 1:20 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: What happens if a girl tricks a guy into getting her pregnant?
Replies: 7
Views: 9049

Re: What happens if a girl tricks a guy into getting her pregnant?

With the way condoms are designed poking a hole in it would make it shred/notably tear as you put it on (mods feel free to correct me on this one). Its' more likely that the condom just failed due to imperfect use rather than any sabotage going on. But yeah, tampering with/lying about contraceptives...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Aug 16, 2017 4:36 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Intellectual disabilities and sex
Replies: 5
Views: 1771

Re: Intellectual disabilities and sex

If it helps people with down syndrome have come out as saying that the idea they can't have relationships or are 'mentally children' is patronizing as hell. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AAPmGW-GDHA Also found this webpage on down syndrome+sex education basically - the consensus I got from it was ...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Aug 02, 2017 11:50 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Step dad??
Replies: 5
Views: 3587

Re: Step dad??

Don't want to be alarmist on you but living with someone that tried to sexually abuse you (and, well, did) isn't really a sustainable situation. He's not tried anything yet but he knows what he can get away with in terms of having his behaviour handwaved by the other adult in the situation. If their...
by Iwanthelp
Tue Aug 01, 2017 12:54 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Step dad??
Replies: 5
Views: 3587

Re: Step dad??

Yeah it does read as sexual abuse to be honest. Its' not uncommon for abusers to try and start off with borderline stuff and escalate like that. (Touching your knees and then heading to your thighs like he did - its' not uncommon for them to use normal physical contact like a piggyback ride as a smo...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Jul 26, 2017 2:40 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)
Replies: 49
Views: 18479

Re: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)

Yeah sorry about that, I'll get to editing the post now. I should've considered the userbase there before acting like an edgelord jerk. Will get to reading the rest of your post eventually but wanted to note that part down first. Edit: so yeah I did a lot of stuff today and turns out I can't edit th...
by Iwanthelp
Wed Jul 26, 2017 5:24 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)
Replies: 49
Views: 18479

Re: Can't process (Abuse/suicidal thoughts/self harm and arguments)

So yeah this is pretty much my vent box I update whenever a new problem comes to me. I think I'm coping a lot better with the PO/CD thing, it still flares up with new recollections of bullshit but I think going through the Mark Freeman content (He does youtube and tumblr) made things better. I kind ...
by Iwanthelp
Mon Jul 03, 2017 6:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What do you wish you'd known about sex, sexuality, and relationships in high school?
Replies: 6
Views: 3667

Re: What do you wish you'd known about sex, sexuality, and relationships in high school?

(For the purposes of context erp = erotic roleplay, rp = roleplay. I'm still not at a point where I'm ready for actual sex or find it all that accessible yet) Oh boy, this'll be complicated. The problem is the stuff I wish I'd learned sooner is stuff that isn't easily to fit concisely into a leaflet...

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