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by Raffles
Sun Jun 26, 2022 6:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gyn appointment
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Re: Gyn appointment

Hi! Thanks for the answers. And I read through that piece last year when I was preparing for my first appointment! I didn't even see the doctor, I saw her PA because I just needed a regular check up and had no concerns. She didn't even do an internal exam at all. Not sure if it will be the same this...
by Raffles
Sun Jun 26, 2022 1:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gyn appointment
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Gyn appointment

Hello! I've got my second ever gyn appointment coming up, and I have a few questions. 1. They ask if your periods are regular. Mine are, as in they're predictable, but I'm not sure if they're more spaced out than normal. Instead of every four weeks, the start of one period to the start of the next i...
by Raffles
Sat Jun 18, 2022 8:13 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

B hasn't responded to me yet. I'm trying not to overthink it, but it's a little weird to me that she wanted to speak the day of and now doesn't seem to want to talk at all. My guess is that she isn't checking her email a whole lot, so I might have to text her.
by Raffles
Wed Jun 15, 2022 1:07 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

I feel guilty right now because it feels very one sided. This is a person who has given me a lot of support, and I feel like I haven’t given any back. I’ve been on the giving side of one of those relationships, and it’s super easy to burn out. As for how I feel about my conversation with B, it’s mix...
by Raffles
Tue Jun 14, 2022 6:37 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

One of the people who helped me write it offered! I can’t believe it was that easy. I still feel guilty about taking up their time an energy, so there is a possibility that I might tell them that I’m okay and call a warm line instead, but I feel like refusing is also rude? Who knows. It might not wo...
by Raffles
Mon Jun 13, 2022 7:26 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Lightbulb moments in media
Replies: 3
Views: 134

Re: Lightbulb moments in media

I was just thinking about this today, actually. I based my middle school fashion sense on Avril Lavigne wearing a tie. The "Part of Me" music video where Katy Perry cuts off her hair and pretends to be a man to join the military gave me feelings. It was nothing specific, more just like &qu...
by Raffles
Mon Jun 13, 2022 2:08 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

I think that support in this way a reasonable thing to ask for, but I'm scared to anyway. I'm planning on emailing the people who have helped me write it (not A) with a final draft and an ask to moderate/be on call. I don't actually anticipate people offering to do it, but I'm okay with that. I thin...
by Raffles
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:16 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

So B read it and texted me (I think I just wasn't clear enough in my email). She sounded upset, but it did sound like she really read it and is thinking about it. She apologized and explained her side a bit. She also emailed to ask if we could set up a time to talk. I'm nervous, but I want to give h...
by Raffles
Fri Jun 10, 2022 11:43 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

Well, I sent it over to B. We shall see how it goes. I sent (hopefully) a firm boundary that any discussion about it should take place over email (that way it's less likely to catch me by surprise or when I'm out in public). I hope she is able to take it as well as A did. At the very least, I hope s...
by Raffles
Wed Jun 08, 2022 1:57 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Queer affirming therapist
Replies: 7
Views: 1840

Re: Queer affirming therapist

Hi! I'm reopening this thread to ask advice on an adjacent issue. I plan on going to get some mental evaluations done for my reading issues. Something the psychologist mentioned in my consultation is that it might be due to social emotional issues. Now, I am painfully aware that I have some social e...
by Raffles
Mon May 30, 2022 4:11 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

My conversation with A went well today. She was really nervous and definitely almost cried a few times, but she kept it together and it was productive. I think she'll change her ways and do better in the future. Now I'm going to have to figure out how to talk to B. I feel like it's something I'm goi...
by Raffles
Sun May 29, 2022 4:39 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

My conversation with A is happening tomorrow! I'll be sure to update. I hope it goes okay.
by Raffles
Thu May 19, 2022 6:22 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

So I didn’t quite follow the instructions, but I did come up with step-by-step instructions. I’ve adapted it for B too, but I want to see how it goes with A first. Meeting with A 1. Ease into it- Talk about the mundane a bit. Ask how her trip was. 2. Affirm her- Thank you so much for agreeing to mee...
by Raffles
Wed May 18, 2022 3:29 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

I don't really plan on saying anything. Everything I want to say was written down in the narrative. I think it will probably be more of a time for A to ask questions and tell me about her interpretation. Because of where we live, I think it's unlikely that I would be able to meet with B in person. I...
by Raffles
Wed May 18, 2022 11:59 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 21
Views: 652

Preparing for a difficult conversation

This is complicated to explain, so there will be a tldr at the end. I recently wrote a personal narrative about an upsetting event that happened to me. The Upsetting Event was cause by two very well-meaning people who were looking out for me, however their actions caused some serious and long-lastin...
by Raffles
Thu Apr 28, 2022 5:46 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Struggling to feel at home
Replies: 5
Views: 545

Re: Struggling to feel at home

It difficult for me to shop for clothes because of my body issues, but I have been choosing comfortable clothes for work and changing immediately into my pajamas when I get home for maximum comfort.

I hope you can get a job soon so you can get your haircut!
by Raffles
Thu Apr 28, 2022 4:21 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Struggling to feel at home
Replies: 5
Views: 545

Re: Struggling to feel at home

I've been wanting to do something to my appearance, like get a tattoo or dye my hair. The tattoo idea has been... complicated, and I feel like I can't really dye my hair because I'm doing interviews. As a sort of GNC/nb person, I feel like I have to look as "normal" as possible otherwise i...
by Raffles
Wed Apr 27, 2022 9:25 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Struggling to feel at home
Replies: 5
Views: 545

Struggling to feel at home

I've been going through a rough patch lately. There have been a series of events that have made me feel completely powerless, like I have no say over what happens to me or my circumstances. My brain has turned this into feeling really weird about my physical body. It doesn't feel like a home or some...
by Raffles
Mon Apr 25, 2022 1:29 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Just needed to vent about this
Replies: 10
Views: 3086

Re: Just needed to vent about this

So the good news is that they responded super quickly and didn't push, they just gave me the number in case I change my mind. The bad news is that this was supposed to be one of the few times in life I get to chose what I look like and really assert autonomy over my body, and instead it became a str...
by Raffles
Mon Apr 25, 2022 1:17 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Just needed to vent about this
Replies: 10
Views: 3086

Re: Just needed to vent about this

Because I am slightly cursed, the rescheduled appointment had to be rescheduled due to the artist's schedule. It was then scheduled for the Friday after next, but it was too much time and I've freaked myself out too much because I don't think it will look good on me and I won't be able to keep it hi...
by Raffles
Sun Apr 10, 2022 4:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 13
Views: 1803

Re: Learning to open up

Hello! I have been trying to face my fear by rationalizing (scale of 1-10 how likely is it that this will happen, what's the actual worst case scenario), and it helps a little. I think it's just hard for me to trust with this specific secret because it was spilled at one point many years ago with pr...
by Raffles
Sat Apr 09, 2022 5:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Learning to open up
Replies: 13
Views: 1803

Re: Learning to open up

I've been thinking about that conversation that started this post (opening up to someone about a dark secret). Lately, I've felt really anxious and doubted my judgement regarding that decision. It's not that the person I opened up to is untrustworthy. It's more that I'm deeply uncomfortable with the...
by Raffles
Tue Mar 22, 2022 5:16 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Discussing eczema with family members
Replies: 3
Views: 597

Re: Discussing eczema with family members

Me: Are you sick? My dad: No Me: Why are you coughing and sneezing? Dad: Why are you red and bumpy? And that was our conversation today. I left it alone, but he thought it was funny. Maybe I shouldn't have asked if he was sick, but I did ask out of a place of care because I don't want him to be sick...
by Raffles
Mon Mar 21, 2022 3:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 25
Views: 2545

Re: Imbalance in friendships

I did text, and she did wake up about an hour later. That's a really polite way of putting it, I like it! I feel a little weird because she doesn't have a great relationship with her parents, so I understand looking for parental figures in others. On the other hand, I'm her age so I don't feel comfo...
by Raffles
Sun Mar 20, 2022 5:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 25
Views: 2545

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Okay, so this is an update on the friend I started this post about. Things have been a lot better this semester. We are only in one class together a week, and it only meets for one hour once a week. She also has a real therapist now, and that's really cut down on our communication. However. This wee...

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