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by Marisha
Tue Sep 21, 2021 12:40 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 19030

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi jenny01, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this :( Parents and their ideas about how our lives should be are a pretty big hurdle to clear. I have a few articles for you with applicable advice about boundaries, communication, and overprotectiveness. When Worlds Collide: Dating and Dealin...
by Marisha
Sat Sep 18, 2021 11:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 3421

Re: Penis Size

Hi dq15, We actually have a great article about this on the site: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown . To touch on some key points from it: What someone weighs also isn't going to have much to do with the size of the penis, though thin men's penises may look bigger in perspective to...
by Marisha
Sat Sep 11, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Weird Sexuality Panic
Replies: 3
Views: 6201

Re: Weird Sexuality Panic

you're welcome :)
by Marisha
Tue Sep 07, 2021 7:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Strange Feelings About Friends
Replies: 3
Views: 2322

Re: Strange Feelings About Friends

Talk about it! What about them do you love? What do you think these feelings of discomfort are trying to tell you? Are they brought on by certain things your friends say/do, or is it something else? I wouldn't be surprised if you were maybe dealing with some social fatigue after being stuck inside b...
by Marisha
Tue Sep 07, 2021 6:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Weird Sexuality Panic
Replies: 3
Views: 6201

Re: Weird Sexuality Panic

Hi pepsi! I think many of us here at Scarleteen can relate to one or both of these experiences - of struggling to articulate the nuances of our sexualities, and of feeling like we are invalid in some way. I'm glad you came to the boards with this because I think feelings of invalidity can really be ...
by Marisha
Tue Sep 07, 2021 5:14 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: EROS
Replies: 9
Views: 2323

Re: EROS

I see. Are you finding yourself in situations that allow you to express yourself sexually beyond the screen?
by Marisha
Sat Sep 04, 2021 5:46 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: EROS
Replies: 9
Views: 2323

Re: EROS

Hi Brunomag8, So first, I'd like to start off by saying that I think my relationship to desire and my desiring of other people is a lot more mundane than what you describe! I don't necessarily assign these grand moral energies to the people I feel attracted to; I simply think, "wow, they're cut...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 2:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 40456

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

No worries! Unless you have a high pain tolerance or nerve damage (pardon me if I'm treading on private medical history) your body will tell you when something is 'too much' because it will hurt! Again, starting slow and gradually testing sensations is best to figure out what works for you. I imagin...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 2:03 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 19030

Re: So there's a guy...

Oh, fair enough. You do have a history of knowing him in person (I assume, since you mention going to school/church together), so maybe you can feel comfortable going there with him since you've known him a while? Do you know if he's looking for a relationship right now? Maybe you can find out throu...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 2:00 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: How Would You Descibe Your Gender Expression?
Replies: 3
Views: 3877

Re: How Would You Descibe Your Gender Expression?

Utility queer, that's fun :)

I like the idea of like, Poptropica -izing my gender description (concrete noun, fun adjective), but I feel like my gender/being is also recognizable as a person or archetype. If I had to choose 3, I would go with pretty boi, one-quarter futch and brickhouse Black belle.
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 12:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 40456

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

The perineum is the stretch of skin between the genitals and the anus. Your prostate should be positioned in the area behind that wall. You may be able to experience pleasure by applying some pressure there - rubbing, grinding, pressing (with fingers, the toy), etc. Here at Scarleteen, we preach the...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 12:04 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 135
Views: 19030

Re: So there's a guy...

Then it sounds like you know what to do! Ask your friends when they would be available for a little get-together at your house and loop him into the plans. I'm of the opinion that when a connection has potential, all people involved will put into making time for one another. I wonder, have you consi...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 28, 2021 11:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 40456

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Hi Rubix, If you ordered your toy from the link above you should be fine privacy-wise. Their FAQ states that they use plain brown packaging to conceal what's inside. Since we're talking about experimenting with new sensations in this thread, I wonder if you've considered trying p-spot pleasure? Sinc...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 7:07 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 11510

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

I would say no, because it would be unfair to the staff working there if they had to clean up after you. Not to mention you might disturb other shoppers nearby (+ I don't know what security is like in England, but there may be security cameras watching you, so be mindful).
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 7:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of sperm.
Replies: 12
Views: 6506

Re: Fear of sperm.

I don't know what you mean by 'any contact,' but as you can see in the article, the highest risk activities are all sexual - vaginal sex, frottage/tribbing, and fluid sharing.
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 5:57 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 11510

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

No trouble at all! You should keep your underwear on out of courtesy for the next person trying them on and the staff who has to put them back on the shelves. Keeping your underwear on also puts a barrier between you and the garment in case it has already been tried on by another person.
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 5:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of sperm.
Replies: 12
Views: 6506

Re: Fear of sperm.

1) If the thing you're touching is a penis or a sex toy that was recently used by someone without being cleaned, then yes, there is a low risk of pregnancy if you touch yourself directly afterward. If the thing being touched is some random object where contact with sperm is unconfirmed or unlikely, ...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 4:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: light spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2947

Re: light spotting after sex

Implantation is when a fertilized egg implants itself into the uterine lining, right? So, it would occur after conception (when the egg becomes fertilized), which can occur sometime after ovulation (when the egg is released from the ovary). Ovulation is projected to occur right smack-dab in the midd...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 3:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of sperm.
Replies: 12
Views: 6506

Re: Fear of sperm.

I'm glad we could help!! And I'm very sorry to hear that you've suffered with these things :( I hope talking about it here wasn't too painful or triggering for you. It's amazing to hear that you feel safer and happier with your current partner and that your anxiety has ebbed a bit. Always know that ...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 3:35 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 11510

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

In terms of comfort, I suggest sticking with any kind of underwear that's made with around 95% cotton, because cotton is a soft, breathable fabric. I don't know about finding the most comfortable fit, but it might help to look at reviews online for certain styles of underwear to see how comfortable ...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 3:23 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: light spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2947

Re: light spotting after sex

Got it. I assume then that you are either about to start your next period within the next 2 weeks and the bleeding may be pre-period rather than post. Either way, it sounds like normal discharge. It shouldn't be implantation discharge not only because you used a condom but also because we aren't abl...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 2:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: light spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2947

Re: light spotting after sex

I'm struggling a bit with the timeline. You mention in your first post in this thread that the spotting happened 'nowhere near your period,' but now it sounds like you're halfway through your cycle. So, I imagine that this spotting was likely normal bleeding occurring shortly before your period. Fro...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 12:49 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Are there different ways to masturbate?
Replies: 13
Views: 11510

Re: Are there different ways to masturbate?

1) Everyone's body is different, and penis size varies from person to person. Because you are younger in age, your body probably isn't done growing, and your body as-is isn't the largest it will ever be. That being said, don't let stigma related to penis size affect you too deeply. Your body is good...
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 12:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: light spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2947

Re: light spotting after sex

Yes! Older blood tends to be a little darker in color. More here: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions
by Marisha
Sat Aug 21, 2021 11:26 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Masturbating does not feel good at all??
Replies: 16
Views: 20367

Re: Masturbating does not feel good at all??

I hear your frustrations about self-pleasure and wanting to find a way to make it work without toys, but I think that if you're experiencing pleasure with a partner and by yourself with toys, pushing yourself to try and make this work when your body is telling you what it prefers is maybe unnecessar...

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