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by Marisha
Sun Jun 20, 2021 12:46 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Painless oral?
Replies: 2
Views: 32

Re: Painless oral?

Hi MusicNerd, Okay, this is gonna take some experimenting because I don't have you in front of me to be able to see why this is happening or to give some sort of demonstration. I will offer some suggestions that might help: I notice that when I stick my tongue out and do a licking motion, my tongue ...
by Marisha
Mon Jun 07, 2021 2:48 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Unwinding with memes
Replies: 0
Views: 543

Unwinding with memes

Sometimes when I'm having a terrible time, a good laugh can make me feel better. What memes/funny posts/etc. have made you laugh lately? I'll start:

CW: fart jokes
by Marisha
Mon Jun 07, 2021 1:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stuck in the Middle
Replies: 5
Views: 631

Re: Stuck in the Middle

Hi jenny01, Jeez, that sounds stressful! Hopefully we can help! The way that this relationship sounds (two partners having different expectations for their relationship, one partner not having their needs met, the other wishing for separation) makes me lean toward believing that breaking up would be...
by Marisha
Sun Jun 06, 2021 11:21 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I insert a vaginal cream applicator if I'm not aroused?
Replies: 6
Views: 15460

Re: How do I insert a vaginal cream applicator if I'm not aroused?

Hi Smari, I'm so sorry to hear about your pain :( Let's see if we can help. You haven't specified which medication you were prescribed, but there are yeast infection treatments that list burning as a side effect. Because you're expressing this amount of discomfort, I wonder if you're able to ask you...
by Marisha
Sat May 22, 2021 12:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 63
Views: 6427

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Wow sandpiper, this is all a ton of excellent self-work. There were several points throughout this latest post that I found myself humming affirmatively. (Btw, we do operate on weekends, we just have different people on different shifts.) where I felt most comfortable, least pressured, most loved- a...
by Marisha
Thu May 20, 2021 2:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Knocked nexplanon?
Replies: 7
Views: 2320

Re: Knocked nexplanon?

Hi Holly55, From the Nexplanon FAQ : Immediately after the NEXPLANON implant has been placed, you and your healthcare provider should check that the implant is in your arm by feeling for it. If you cannot feel the NEXPLANON implant, contact your healthcare provider immediately and use a non-hormonal...
by Marisha
Thu May 13, 2021 3:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Life span of sperm
Replies: 5
Views: 1678

Re: Life span of sperm

Sperm are only able to survive under very specific temperature and moisture conditions, and even then, they can only survive for so long. If they are dried out, they are certain to be dead. If they're too hot, cold, or old, they are certain to be dead. The only way to know their exact moment of deat...
by Marisha
Thu May 13, 2021 1:48 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 2113

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd, I know this thread has gone quiet for now, but I just felt the need to add on, because I really feel your pain. Like you said before, the road to independence is long. I myself didn't come out to my close family members until I was away in college. I was so tired of hiding my truth, but at ...
by Marisha
Thu May 13, 2021 1:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Life span of sperm
Replies: 5
Views: 1678

Re: Life span of sperm

Hi Wave, great question! As put by the wonderful Ruthie in our advice column , "sperm are [...] very fragile little organisms. They can live nearly a week within the the reproductive system they're ejaculated into, but they die very quickly once they get dry in the air, are exposed to cleaning ...
by Marisha
Wed May 12, 2021 12:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Too sensitive to orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 1612

Re: Too sensitive to orgasm

That sounds frustrating :( Experiencing pain during masturbation/close to orgasm is actually fairly common from what I know, but again, I have to recommend that you see a doctor for a second opinion because I can't give you medical advice, especially without knowing exactly what the issue is. Are yo...
by Marisha
Wed May 12, 2021 11:33 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Too sensitive to orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 1612

Re: Too sensitive to orgasm

Geez, well it sounds like masturbation hasn't been very fun for you! I think powering through even though you aren't enjoying it is maybe not the best thing, for your body or for your heart. I can understand wanting to do something that's known to feel good, but do you actually want to be doing this...
by Marisha
Wed May 12, 2021 11:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Too sensitive to orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 1612

Re: Too sensitive to orgasm

Hi sweet-lemonade, Thank you for reaching out! Let's see how we can help. So it sounds like you're experiencing a ton of discomfort during masturbation :( I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. Just to make sure, have you ever successfully reached orgasm before? I'm asking just to see if we can di...
by Marisha
Wed May 12, 2021 10:47 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I don't know if I'm bi or lesbian?
Replies: 3
Views: 3417

Re: I don't know if I'm bi or lesbian?

Hi cherrymoon (cute name!), Thank you for reaching out! So, I'm sorry to say this, but none of us here can really tell you what your sexuality is , because how you describe your identity is totally personal and up to you. That being said, what you've described here - possibly being attracted to anot...
by Marisha
Sun May 02, 2021 2:44 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 2620

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

all i know is that i wanted to tease him So, it sounds like you weren't trying to hurt him ... i did tell him about how guilty i felt and he did say that it was fine and that it really doesn’t bother him ...and he didn't seem to feel or express any hurt. Here at Scarleteen, we define sexual assault...
by Marisha
Sun May 02, 2021 1:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 25
Views: 2620

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hi haikyufan123, I respect the fact that you're thinking about your boyfriend's comfort during sex. Tending to a person's needs and respecting their boundaries is just as important to sex as pleasure. I'm reading the words you've written - i think i accidentally kept going i stopped when he pulled a...
by Marisha
Wed Apr 14, 2021 4:20 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex
Replies: 12
Views: 1967

Re: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex

Hi Jess99, Thank you so much for reaching out. I myself have struggled with sexual trauma, and just saying it out loud can itself be a huge hurdle. Congratulations on making it so far into your healing process, and good on you for prioritizing your mental (and overall) health. I have less than a han...
by Marisha
Mon Apr 12, 2021 4:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 1947

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

I felt there was no point in having set standards or a "dating plan" What was the plan/"formulaic way"? I don't really know exactly what I can say I like because I feel like I'll never find it or it's unrealistic What is that "unrealistic" want? I should say, it's comp...
by Marisha
Mon Apr 12, 2021 2:48 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 11
Views: 1809

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

Hi jenny01, Surgery can be really scary, not to mention have an inconvenient healing time :cry: I hope you have support during this time. I have to affirm what Heather said before. Being a young woman can be difficult in a culture that constantly tells us that we should look "beautiful," a...
by Marisha
Sun Apr 11, 2021 5:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 1947

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hi BuddyBoi, I'm sorry to hear that you've had to go through all this, on top of the pandemic!! Quarantine has kept many of us away from our regular coping mechanisms, I'm sure. I hope that you've been able to connect with friends virtually, or been able to incorporate them into your bubble for the ...
by Marisha
Sun Apr 11, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 1146

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Hi Hel! As Mo wonderfully puts it in our advice column , "Some people are more comfortable initiating sex than others, and some folks enjoy the feeling of being asked more than they enjoy doing the asking; both of these things are okay. But when there's an imbalance of one person always initiat...
by Marisha
Sun Apr 11, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: How to stop having so many thoughts about sex?
Replies: 3
Views: 1064

Re: How to stop having so many thoughts about sex?

Hi Skylar, Would you say these thoughts are intrusive - totally involuntary - or is there something in your life/surroundings that brings them on? There are definitely ways to put a damper on these types of unwanted thoughts either way, but it's hard to put a stop to them completely, especially if t...
by Marisha
Sun Apr 11, 2021 1:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confused about sexuality and masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 724

Re: Confused about sexuality and masturbation

Hi Nia Ray, My reflex would be to answer your question with: "I don't know, you tell me." I think what I've noticed about users who ask questions about their sexuality is that they attempt to apply their behavior to a set definition. Unfortunately, however, we can't diagnose you with lesbi...
by Marisha
Sat Apr 03, 2021 5:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 7
Views: 1852

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi Elias,

No need to feel embarrassed :) I believe you mean the speculum. Good luck to you!!
by Marisha
Mon Mar 29, 2021 3:21 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process
Replies: 9
Views: 2873

Re: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process

She also says that I shouldn't try to dwell on it too long since it was in the past. I do agree with her, but at the same time, it is a relatively new thing to process. Whenever I think about trying to 'get over' the things that happened to me in the past, I think 'dwelling' on the issue - thinking...
by Marisha
Mon Mar 29, 2021 3:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Aromantic but not by choice?
Replies: 5
Views: 960

Re: Aromantic but not by choice?

You're very welcome! :D

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