Feel like you're behind the ball on being sexually active (which you aren't!) or don't understand why you passed on the sexual advance of someone attractive? It's often assumed that young men are ALWAYS ready for sex, but that's certainly not always the case and this double-standard can put a lot of pressure on men. Come read or join this topic rarely discussed in public.
When men aren't ready for sexAs a young man, if and when you counter them, how do you deal with defining your own masculinity? How hard do stereotypes like this make it for you to find your own male identity? In that same vein, what HELPS you to be able to define your own gender identity positively; what helps you feel best able to counter these attitudes and find a "male" role that is healthy and feels good for you?
Who's the man?How ready were you for sex? Take our sexual readiness and consent poll, and find out what other Scarleteen men had to say about this subject. (We have a poll for women, too.)
Male sexual readiness and consent pollFind out what male users of Scarleteen have experienced and feel about orgasm and sexual pleasure.
Orgasm/sexual pleasure poll: FOR MEN ONLYFind out both medical facts and personal experiences with "blue balls" (vasocongestion).
All you ever wanted to know about blue balls...Does weight gain or loss, or getting taller, have any effect on penis size?
Penis size and changes in weight or heightSo, hey -- what's the big deal about size averages anyway? Why is everyone so concerned?
The Long and the Short (of Penis Size Figures)Is having a curved penis normal? (Yep.) Find out about what Scarleteen users and sexperts have to say about curved penises.
Penis curvatureOvercoming sexual victimization of boys and men: information and support for male sexual abuse survivors.
A website with links to a multitude of topics from circumcision, to parenting, to relationships and more.
Breast cancer doesn't just happen to women; while it's much more rare, males can be diagnosed with it as well. This Medline page offers resources, overviews, journal articles, news and more all about breast cancer in men. Get informed!
A fact sheet that gives basic information on what constitutes disordered eating, and who is at risk. Eating disorders are beginning to affect male youth; this fact sheet can tell you what you need to know.
The primary author of this article is Malcolm Gin, a 31-year old intergendered person - a person whose genetic sex is neither male nor female. Malcolm is a successful professional in the computer industry who lives in Boston with a couple of cats and a long-time girlfriend who helped to edit this article. In this article, Malcolm explains a great deal about sex, gender, gender identity, and what you can do if you find out (or worry) that you might not be "normal" in terms of your own gender identity. Read on, and find out what it's like to be a "boy" who isn't actually a boy, and what life is like for people with non-standard gender identity.
If we look at our sexuality one way, it looks a million times simpler than it actually is. If we look at it another way, it appears a million times more complicated. While it's important that we bear everything in mind we need to in terms of infection and disease, birth control, our relationships, our bodies and the whole works, now and then we need to remember the bare bones and the human element of the thing, and keep the essentials in the forefront of our minds.
Puberty is the process of physical changes and sexual maturation leading to sexual maturation as well as complete body growth. During puberty, your whole body goes through growth spurts until it has become physically mature in terms of bone mass and size, and the sexual organs and secondary sexual characteristics develop and mature. Chances are, if you're at this website, you have likely already started puberty.