Hi Heather, I just found a question from 'samy-baby' concerning rape when performing a google search for something unrelated as it caught my eye. I'm afraid you appeared all too eager to label the bloke as unsafe and 'stay well away from him', given that the girl openly admitted within the first words of her sentence that she gets her boyfriend stupid-horny then says "no sex", that's just cruel, and I doubt many men would tolerate it. I've made it abundantly clear with my girlfriend that if she makes the effort to turn me into a horn-monster, she should finish through or I'm usually very pissed off; not to say that I'd go ahead and have sex with her anyway. All I'm saying is you failed to advise this girl that if she doesn't want to have sex, then she shouldn't get her boyfriend horny.

I'm 21 years old I've been sexually active since I can remember, and never was interested in getting or giving a blowjob. But now, I want to but don't know how to give oral sex in a way I know he will ejaculate. So I just open my mouth and then what?

Well, there's a lot going on in my life lately and well, I'm needing help with something. I'm a 20-year-old bisexual male. Here's my problem. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, with whom I had a very long relationship. We started our relationship as virgins, and well, I still am. She had issues with sex and well it was never an issue for me, it wasn't even one of the reasons why I broke up with her, she thinks it was but . . it really wasn't. A couple of weeks ago I met a guy and, well, one thing lead to another and we had the opportunity to have sexual contact. And well, here's where the problem starts. I wasn't able to get an erection. Yes, quite embarrassing trust me. I think that due to my age it is next to impossible that I have an erectile dysfunction problem so I'm thinking it is all psychological. Is it possible that I'm so used to repressing my sexual needs due to my previous relationship that it is affecting my current one? Or is it possible that his way of dealing with foreplay is just not getting me "turned on"? There's no rush to answer my question but I'd love it if you still took the time to answer it. I do understand that you probably get flooded with dozens and dozens of questions every day! Thanks!!

Ok, me and my girlfriend just now started to have sex and it's like still hurting her after like the 3rd time we couldn't really do it too long that time because it hurt her. And I'm worried if I'm not doing something right because I don't want to hurt her I want it to be enjoyable for her. What Do I Do!

Okay, here's my dilemma. I am 16 and sexually active. I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. We've used to have sex perfectly with no problems until about a couple of months ago. Now, I can't even get an erection and I don't ever feel horny anymore at all. I ask all my friends if they have this problem but they say no, they can get erections very quickly. I'm having a lot of trouble with this because I thought at this age teens are able to get it up quick and easy. I don't know if it's a testosterone problem or not but it's starting to wear on me. I'm in good shape, but I smoke a little bit. Basically, I've completely lost my sexual appetite. This isn't right. Someone help!

I had this girlfriend and me and her always had unprotected sex and I was wondering why didn't I get her pregnant if I always ejaculated in her? This was like a 5 month thing that I had sex with her everyday and always ejaculated do you think that when I am ejaculating I'm shooting blanks cause I'm like really thinking about it. I'm 15 years old.

I'm 18, female and my boyfriend and I had no previous sexual relationships. I've been engaging in intercourse about a month now, and I was wondering why I haven't orgasmed yet. I've been able to orgasm through masturbation but not with my boyfriend doing the work. What do you think is wrong? Is it normal? Or are we just too inexperienced? If so how do I tell my boyfriend about it?

Is there anything I can do to prevent STDs after having unprotected sex?

Is it masturbation healthy or does it cause some diseases?

I'm not gay, but I like my butt and anus played with. Can someone tell me why?