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The Pregnancy Panic Companion

In the thick of a pregnancy scare? Freaking out? Not sure what to do? Welcome to your virtual pregnancy scare doula.

Parental Controls

Noodle asks:

I have been in a monogamous relationship with someone my age for two years. We have been sexually active for a year now. My parents are religious and conservative, and believe strongly that there is no place for sex outside of marriage and I shouldn't be committed to my boyfriend until I have graduated college, which I am attending now. I have a very close relationship with my parents and didn't want to have to keep up a facade of chastity, so I told my mom that my boyfriend and I have been having sex. She was very upset and it launched a 3 month ordeal of restructuring boundaries for my boyfriend and I and reestablishing trust with me. My parents insist they still like my boyfriend as a person, but they no longer want us to have anything to do with one another. My boyfriend and I go to different schools and are apart for months at a time. We were originally planning to visit one another, but my mother says that if he visits it will permanently damage their relationship with him and my relationship with them. Over winter break, we were not allowed to ride in the same car together unless there was an adult chaperoning us, and my parents made sure we spent just as much time with them as with his family. It was horrible, and my mental health really suffered. I want to be able to go back to having a free, adult relationship with my boyfriend, but I also want my parents to approve of him again. I am dreading going home, but I really want to be able to see my love again. Any advice would be very welcome.

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He Doesn't Want Sex Anymore. I Do. Now What?

chubbychickpea asks:

My partner and I have been dating for over a year now and have just begun to hit some rough patches. We used to have a lot of (what I thought was) really great sex. Then one day he told me that all that sex had been only mediocre for him. I was mortified and also ashamed because it felt like maybe he had never really want to have sex with me, he was just doing it because he knew I wanted to. Recently, he says that he might be asexual, but he isn't sure. He's trans and in the middle of transitioning, so he says his body is changing. He says masturbation "works wonders" for him, and he feels no sexual desire for me whatsoever. I've researched a/sexual relationships - the options are 1) me learning to like masturbation - I do, but it's not enough for me 2) him compromising to have sex, which reeks of non-consent and grosses me out 3) an open relationship, which isn't an option for either of us. I'm sexual. I want to feel sexy and desired and to have sex and everything that goes along with it. But if he isn't, what am I supposed to do? Right now the solution feels like I should just repress my libido so I won't need to have sex any more, but I don't even know if that's possible. I'm at an age where I'm being told left and right to assert myself as a woman, as a sexual person, as a queer person - but it seems like all of that's stopping now. If I'm not a sexual woman any more, I don't even know if I can consider myself a woman. That's right, this is potentially gender identity rocking for me. Please give me any and all advice. I'd appreciate it. - Sad, Confused, Terrified.

更持久些: 为什么是男性而不是女性在担心

funkykingston asks:

一位读者写信来问,他怎么才能在做爱的时候让勃起更持久些。信里是这么写的:

我是一个15岁的男生。 我现在还没有开始恋爱,我也不会很快就发生阴道性交。但是,既然还有的是时间,我觉得应该开始锻炼,让自己在做爱的时候能够更持久——等到了那一天我就会大有用武之地了。

我自慰已经有一段时间了,充分地探索和认识了自己和自身的各种性反应。 我很清楚自己没有下列问题:

· 我没有感到不自信,感到害怕,也不觉得自己有什么 不足之处

· 我不会因为观看色情作品,而对什么是“正常”性行为有过不切实际的想法

· 我不认为只有阴道性交才是“真正”的性爱

· 我不同意用一个人的勃起持久能力来判断此人是否优秀、有多“男人”

同时我也知道,勃起更持久的话会增加我和我将来的爱侣在性生活中得到的乐趣。我在网上看到很多有关性技巧的资讯,但是我知道很多都是有人想通过劝诱别人相信他们所谓神奇的解决方法来挣大钱,所以我还是问你们吧,到底什么方法有效呢。 谢谢!

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