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Shame & Stigma: How It Makes Young Moms and Dads Feel

As a young parent, being shamed for the decisions you have made and being stigmatized for your identity makes navigating through the world -- and pregnancy and parenting -- much more difficult.

He Doesn't Want Sex Anymore. I Do. Now What?

chubbychickpea asks:

My partner and I have been dating for over a year now and have just begun to hit some rough patches. We used to have a lot of (what I thought was) really great sex. Then one day he told me that all that sex had been only mediocre for him. I was mortified and also ashamed because it felt like maybe he had never really want to have sex with me, he was just doing it because he knew I wanted to. Recently, he says that he might be asexual, but he isn't sure. He's trans and in the middle of transitioning, so he says his body is changing. He says masturbation "works wonders" for him, and he feels no sexual desire for me whatsoever. I've researched a/sexual relationships - the options are 1) me learning to like masturbation - I do, but it's not enough for me 2) him compromising to have sex, which reeks of non-consent and grosses me out 3) an open relationship, which isn't an option for either of us. I'm sexual. I want to feel sexy and desired and to have sex and everything that goes along with it. But if he isn't, what am I supposed to do? Right now the solution feels like I should just repress my libido so I won't need to have sex any more, but I don't even know if that's possible. I'm at an age where I'm being told left and right to assert myself as a woman, as a sexual person, as a queer person - but it seems like all of that's stopping now. If I'm not a sexual woman any more, I don't even know if I can consider myself a woman. That's right, this is potentially gender identity rocking for me. Please give me any and all advice. I'd appreciate it. - Sad, Confused, Terrified.

更持久些: 为什么是男性而不是女性在担心

funkykingston asks:

一位读者写信来问,他怎么才能在做爱的时候让勃起更持久些。信里是这么写的:

我是一个15岁的男生。 我现在还没有开始恋爱,我也不会很快就发生阴道性交。但是,既然还有的是时间,我觉得应该开始锻炼,让自己在做爱的时候能够更持久——等到了那一天我就会大有用武之地了。

我自慰已经有一段时间了,充分地探索和认识了自己和自身的各种性反应。 我很清楚自己没有下列问题:

· 我没有感到不自信,感到害怕,也不觉得自己有什么 不足之处

· 我不会因为观看色情作品,而对什么是“正常”性行为有过不切实际的想法

· 我不认为只有阴道性交才是“真正”的性爱

· 我不同意用一个人的勃起持久能力来判断此人是否优秀、有多“男人”

同时我也知道,勃起更持久的话会增加我和我将来的爱侣在性生活中得到的乐趣。我在网上看到很多有关性技巧的资讯,但是我知道很多都是有人想通过劝诱别人相信他们所谓神奇的解决方法来挣大钱,所以我还是问你们吧,到底什么方法有效呢。 谢谢!

第一次

如果你正在考慮性(陰道)性交與異性伴侶,和你有你覺得你需要的一切:重大,在你們的關係方面,以及在感情上,你可能想知道如何使這一切工作你的第一次。問題的大部分,我們得到被問及第一次性交是:會痛嗎?我會流血?我會恨呢?我很害怕,我該怎麼辦?為什麼不是我男朋友跟我說話,現在我們已經有性行為?為什麼我沒有性高潮?為什麼不覺得它像什麼?

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