denial
The Myth of the But-There's-No-Way Abuser
Another day, another famous person accused of abuse or assault. And with it, yet another wave begins of victim-blaming and denials from fans and people who know the person being accused of abuse personally or professionally.
Of forgotten condoms. And days without pants.
It occurs to me that the "we both forgot to use condoms" thing that comes up often enough is a bit like suggesting that a person forgot to wear pants.
For a whole day.
And didn't notice.
At all.
So, About That Sex You're Having While You're Saving Sex for Marriage...
As a sex educator, I don't define sex as only being about penis-in-vagina intercourse, for a whole lot of reasons.
If "sex" was the answer, the questions would be things like "What am I doing to try and feel good sexually or to express feeling good sexually? What am I doing that feels sexual to me (or to me and a partner)? What am I doing that feels like a way to express my sexuality, or my sexual desires and/or feelings about myself or others?"
Finding Elmo: Getting My Kid & Myself Out Of Domestic Violence
Love the Glove: 10 Reasons to Use Condoms You Might Not Have Heard Yet
We're saving sex for marriage, but he wants to have anal sex.
I am 22 years old and my BF is 23 years old. We are both virgins and we both want to stay virgins until marriage. We have been together for 3 years now and lately he mentioned to me that he wants to have anal sex. I want to do it but I want to ask if he should wear a condom. Also, will it hurt?...
Taken Over
My rape is stuck in my head: what do I do to get it out?
This is an odd question, and I really hope I don't disturb anyone here, it's not my intention. Anyway, I'm 16, and I've been raped, about a month ago. I'm kinda going nuts here, it's being sorted out legally. I'm not pregnant, I don't have any infections, and the guy's arrested, and I could really care less about the incident, except it's really stuck in my head. I guess this isn't sexual......