When I was younger, (think 8 to begin with) my uncle kissed me on the mouth and told me that was the way I was supposed to kiss boys. It catapulted me out of normal 8 year old states of mind and left me obsessing about sex. I masturbated A LOT and had what I thought years later what might have been an orgasm at 11.
I thought that everyone was as sex obsessed as I was, which was probably due to the enormous amounts of media attention paid to having sex, trying to have sex, making yourself sexy enough to have sex, etc. It might also be useful to add that I was way ahead in school, so my peer group were at least 2 years older than I was, meaning that the boys around me were hitting puberty when I started this crazy sexual revolution...
One of our volunteers, Joey, leads an exercise in thinking about people you can turn to in a crisis. So who would you talk to when you need help? Come and share with our other users and get ideas from them about where you can go when you need someone to listen.
Who Would You Tell?After being abused, it can sometimes be difficult to imagine that healthy relationships exist, or what they would even feel like. In this thread, users talk about what a healthy relationship does look and feel like, and share their own experiences with healthy relationships.
What does a healthy relationship look and feel like?Many people wind up in abusive relationships without realizing that the relationship is abusive. It can often take a while to come to that realization that a relationship is abusive, especially when you so desperately want for the relationship to work or have been fed cultural stereotypes and propoganda about how people in relationships should behave. In this thread, our users talk about what made them realize their relationship was abusive and what made them decide to get out, and how understanding that a relationship was abusive has impacted the rest of their lives and relationships.
When the light bulb went onSurvivors of abuse often will note characteristics about their abusers that were similar to other abusers they have encountered. Sometimes those characteristics are things that can be noticed early on, before the abuse starts or escalates. These are warning signs of abusers, and they are worth thinking about so next time you are on a date you'll know what signs to watch out for. In this thread, our users share their own experiences with an abuser's personality traits.
When the signs aren't so clear-cut -- experiences with abusers' personality traitsMe and my boyfriend have had unprotected sex about 3 times times within the last month, but I don't know the exact dates. I didn't know before that pre-cum had sperm in it, so I thought we were safe with the whole pregnancy issue if he just "pulled out," but when I read more about it, I realized I was wrong! The last time we had unprotected sex, he told me that got a little cum inside me, which really worried us both. It's been about two weeks since the last time we had unprotected sex and I have been having stomach aches and headaches and major mood swings and I have been peeing A LOT! I took two over-the-counter pregnancy tests and they both said negative, but I am worried that I may have taken the tests too early because my period is irregular (sometimes every few months) so I never know when it is going to be so I don't know if I have missed it yet or not. I am very worried. Could I be pregnant and how can I make sure? If I am pregnant, I'm gonna get an abortion. I live in Gillette Wyoming. Since I am 13 & my bf is 18 my mom told us we are not "allowed" to have sex, so if she found out she would press charges against him (which I don't want to happen) so I was wondering if there was any close places that I could get an abortion without telling my parents.
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