First of all, I am really thankful for your services. I am 29 yrs old female and recently got married to a 30 yr old guy. We have tried to sex couple of times but unsuccessful because of pain I experience when my husband tried to penetrate. Although we gathered useful information from your site, the main problem is that since we both are virgins we don't have much idea about these things. Secondly we both are not aroused at same time. Can you please advise us as to what is the best position or possibly the best way to do it first time?

I am a virgin, and single. In my state of singularity, I have had a lot of time to think, particularly because my friends are starting to want to go all the way with their partners. My biggest fear, as is probably common, is being rejected or hurt physically, emotionally, or both. Some say that it hurts the first time you have sex, and I was wondering as to the extent of that pain, and if it continues after you have had sex for the first time?

My second question is about pubic hair. I overheard some guys talking and they were crudely exchanging notes on their preferences on that subject and it had me worried. If not au naturale then what? For that matter, are the bare basics even acceptable>? And if not how do you go about shaping things up down there?