I've heard several people on this site explain the issue of a male's penis size as it relates to pleasure to a female's vagina and Heather said once that the thicker the size the more sensation one will feel. The thing is that no one ever said that size truly matters everyone including Heather says it does not. So I have a question just to see if I'm hearing and understand you correct.

My boyfriend is lets say, for argument's sake, 4 inches long and 1 inch wide and when he's in I feel nothing, but my first lover was 8 inches long and 3 inches wide: you're saying he did not make it too big for my current boyfriend to give me or for himself to get good sensations? Your saying that if it was in reverse, that my first lover had the 4 inch by 1 inch penis, and I was fully lubricated my first time with him I still would have felt nothing then also? If that is what your saying then is it true that the women in adult fims who have sometimes hundreds of partners could get and give a man that has s 3 inch by 1 inch penis the same sensations that a virgin or a non virgin that has had only 1 partner could, assuming they both were willing and aroused fully and lubricated enough?

What is the "normal" penis size for an adult man? I heard from someone that a guy had a 23-inch penis. Could that be true?

I am 16 and about 4 foot 11 inches. I am relatively short and scared that my boyfriend's penis won't enter completely because of the length of my vagina. Does my height affect my vagina's length?

I am positive I have a malformed vagina and it makes me very self conscious. I have enlarged asymmetrical labia minor folds which do not protrude the beginning half of my vagina, but do on the latter half and obscure my vaginal opening. This extra flesh is brown in color and not a healthy pink color.
Will this interfere with my ability to have intercourse later on? Is this in fact a "malformation" or is this "type" of labia not as uncommon as I think it is? Should I have labiaplasty?

Misc. semi pertinent facts:
I'm in my late teens, but not yet an adult and a virgin.

It seems like lately I am just becoming overwhelmed in worry about my self-image directly related to my penis size and performance. It seems like sometimes my penis varies in size and performance while I am masturbating. I am just wondering what are some tips or advice you can give me on how to get full performance and size out of my penis whether its technique or certain muscles to use.

I saw this statement that one of the sexperts named Heather had replied back to a question, and I was wondering how it could be true the statement was the following:

A woman being a virgin -- if, by that, we mean has not engaged in any kind of vaginal sex before -- doesn't necessarily make any difference in the size of the opening since intercourse/vaginal sex doesn't permanently change the genitals in any way.

The last part is what I don't get, I dont understand, I've had sex roughly 20 times, and I can DEFINALLY see a diffrence from when I was a virgin, my whole genitals have expanded and are loose and there's A LOT of room up in my vagina now, before I could only get a finger if that much. AND also there are claims that people who've had alot of sex are more loose, compared to people who haven't had as much sex are more tight. So, to me this statement is VERY confusing cause to me it is very untrue considering my whole downstairs is permently changed. Please Help!

How big is the vaginal opening in a virgin? I am one and it is extremely painful for me to insert 2 fingers: i can insert only one finger that too in case I get really ummmmm....lubricated. How will a penis ever go in?