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Condom Basics: A User's Manual

Using a condom is generally easier than it looks (especially if you can relax about it), but the first couple times, it can be tricky, especially if you're nervous about knowing how to use one.

How can I have Chlamydia when he doesn't?

Ajay asks:

Me and my partner have been together for 5 months now. I have just recently been tested positive for an STI (chlamydia). My partner and I have never used condoms because I am on the pill. My partner went and got himself tested and his results came back negative. How is that possible?

Can I have sex while I'm receiving the Gardasil vaccination series?

Jill asks:

I am about to be vaccinated for HPV, and was wondering if I could be sexually active during the 6 month period that I am being treated for the virus? I am a virgin and want to have sex with my boyfriend, who is also a virgin but I have heard various things from different people and am apprehensive about the whole situation. I have heard that the vaccine is "more effective" if you do not have sex during the 6 month period you are receiving the shot; however, I have also that heard it doesn't matter if you do or not from other sources. I want to have sex but I don't know if it is safe or not. Please help!

Is it true teens won't use condoms the way adults use them?

jess asks:

Is it true teens won't use condoms the way adults use them? And is it true condoms wont protect against AIDS?

I don't want to give a guy oral sex...but maybe I do?

Down Under asks:

I come here quite often to browse and get information I need, and now I need some advice.

Since I was 13 and started dating and getting more intimate I decided I didn't want to go down on a guy. I had quite a few reasons for it and on top of it I just found it abnormal. Well now I'm 15 and have been in a relationship for quite some time now. Me and my boyfriend talk about sex openly, what each of us are ready and not ready for, and this really does work. He knows my stand point on the no going down thing, though he has done that for me. I know he doesn't expect it back, but he does say that he really wants to. And I find myself compelled to at some points. Does this mean I'm a hypocrite, turning my back on what I've believed? Every time we bring it up I always tell him I'm paranoid, I have researched what you can get from doing something like that. I just don't know, can you help me?

What's this stuff coming out of my vagina after unprotected sex?

CURIOUS asks:

I had sex last night without a condom and now I have mucus coming out my vagina. Not sure what that can mean?? PLEASE HELP!

She got Chlamydia again after being treated: how?

concerned asks:

My friend got Chlamydia and got treated for it. Then about two months later it came back again. Do you think the medication didn't work or do you think he cheated on his girlfriend?

He's older, I'm intimidated and unsure

luv_cool_gemini asks:

I am a 15 year old girl and I have a boyfriend who is 20 we are going out for about two months we both love each other and till now we have had only one private moment were we smooched and he touched my breasts after asking and he tried to touch my privates like he just placed his finger there but he didn't go inside I told him that I didn't like it so he withdrew when we smooched again he took my hand to his penis but I jerked it off . We both are true to each other he has got a blowjob once from a girl n he has also fingered her and I too have given a blowjob to my ex but I am scared if I get pregnant and I also can't tell him to use condoms because he doesn't like it he also tells about having sex with me but I am just fifteen so what do I do? I also want to and don't want to give him a blowjob because I am scared that I will get pregnant and will he think wrong of me if I give him one? Because I don't want this relation to break.

Without sexual contact, could I have an STI?

Love11 asks:

If you have never had any sexual encounters of any kind before is it possible to have an STI?

Sex, period.

LBelle asks:

Can you have sex when you have your period? If so, how?

Can you prevent STIs after the fact?

Jason asks:

Is there anything I can do to prevent STDs after having unprotected sex?

If we're just rubbing genitals, are there still risks?

Gena N. asks:

Hi I'm a 17 year old girl and I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for a few months. We always use condoms. But recently we have been trying this new thing where I sit on him, facing him (naked obviously) and his penis is straight up and we just kinda rub up and down for a little bit. He always pees before we do stuff cause I hear that lowers pre-cum risk and also I always watch his penis as we do this so I can make sure I see nothing coming out. Also, My vagina never touches the head, it just rubs the base. Is there a pregnancy risk here? I thought it sounded safe but I still wanted to know for sure. If it's not we'll stop!

I gave a guy a blow job unprotected because I wanted to see his penis. What did I risk?

Jillsummer asks:

My friends and I have been giving blow jobs to our boyfriends at school instead of having sex with them. This year we're freshmen and my best friend told me of a junior boy with a really big D. We're not sluts or anything, but we have talked it over quite a few times and wanted to see if it was true. During Christmas break we went to a party and even though we were really nervous, we cornered him in the basement and asked to see it. He agreed to show it to us as long as we gave him a hand job. We weren't keen on the idea, but agreed. He was huge, twice as big as our boyfriends easily and we could both fit both of our hands on it at once. Just as the boy was ready to shoot his load, he said one of us would have to swallow. Neither of us wanted to, but he said we had to and he thrust himself into my mouth as he ejaculated. I was embarrassed and nervous and didn't know what to do, so I finally swallowed an entire mouthful of what tasted like mucus. We left the party immediately and I tried to throw up, but couldn't. I'm not sick yet, but could swallowing his load do something to me?

Rash after sex?

teenie asks:

I have a questionable ailment...I've developed a rash the day after my boyfriend and I have had sex but we've been together for 3 years, lost our virginity together and stay monogamous. So I can't see any risk in any STIs although I am planing to get a check-up soon. The rash is around my vaginal area but also near my bottom. I'm guessing I'm allergic to the latex or lube used or it could be because I shaved...should I be worried? Thank You