pleasure

Fantastic question! It's so important for people to remember that usually when we're looking to engage in activities of any kind where there are some risks of negative or unwanted outcomes, it's usually because we also want to take risks of discovering or getting some positive or wanted outcomes. If...

It feels good. The species would have a little trouble propagating if we didn't enjoy mating. By nature, sexual pleasure is the incentive that encourages us to make more of ourselves. That's quite good for the species -- so much so that I think humans may have done too good a job of it. But...

You'll probably be surprised to know that this is a pretty common question with an answer that may be unexpected based on what we've been taught about how things "should" go. The first thing you really need to understand when you're thinking about this is that the vaginal canal itself is not...

Vibrators cannot "desensitize" anyone in any permanent way. There have never been any findings through sound research which have shown that vibrators or other vigorous stimulation of the clitoris do anyone harm or change anyone's anatomy or sexual response permanently. Sure, they can kind of numb...

When someone asks me a sex readiness question, one of the big things I look for is that the onset of sex in a relationship is about more than one person mostly or solely initiating. In other words, I hear you telling me that he says you can stop if you want to, and that tells me he's probably the...

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we've been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few...

Not having sex shouldn't cause anyone to have a nervous breakdown. And if you feel like your mental health hinges on being sexually active with a partner, that's not a good thing -- or healthy for you or a relationship -- and something you'd want to address with a mental health professional. Mind...

Unless you're masturbating with something that isn't sanitary -- such as a toy or object that can't really be sanitized, or with unwashed hands -- masturbation can't cause disease or infection, just like you, say, putting your fingers in your mouth isn't going to cause disease or infection unless...

I sure can, and I'm glad you asked. Know what? Some gay men do NOT like having any sort of anal sex. Enjoyment of anal sex does not define or determine homosexuality, and lack of enjoyment of anal sex does not define or determine heterosexuality. So, a guy can be gay and yet not be all that...

While it's common for women -- especially young women -- to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it's not "normal" in that it has to happen or there isn't an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it's supposed to feel very good. If you're bleeding after sex every time, and it's also not feeling...