pleasure

You're not alone in this, and it's okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it's not JUST...

You know, I always feel for heterosexual or bisexual folks when they clearly have paid attention to this stuff, done the reading or just talked to women, put it all together and have that "Whoah!" moment about this issue. With so many people reared to think that male-female vaginal intercourse is...

The most common reasons for what you are experiencing would be: • Beginning vaginal entry before you are really, truly, fully aroused. As in, aroused to the point where you are very nearly begging your partner to begin intercourse because you just can't wait another minute for it. THAT is the point...

Sex doesn't have to be (and for most people to feel satisfied, really shouldn't be) only or solely about intercourse, and neither a smaller penis nor being of size means that sex has to be, or will be, unsatisfying for either partner. My good friend and colleague Hanne Blank literally wrote the book...

I get the feeling you (and your friend) are misunderstanding some things about your anatomy. Here is our article on the female genital anatomy, and you may find keeping the window open so you can see the illustrations helpful while I try and explain things better for you. For starters, there isn't...

Oooooooooookay. Let's try to go ahead and unpack all of this, once and for all. First things first: the vagina is a muscle. It's not some flippety-floppedy passive tube, nor is it tissue like your skin. It's muscle, like the muscles of your arms, legs or tongue. When we put something inside of it...

It's not a bad thing when it isn't a bad thing for you. NO consensual sexual activity is a bad thing, per the activity alone, when everyone involved WANTS to be doing it, and feels good physically and emotionally doing it. But you're right: there are a lot of negative attitudes about anal sex and...

I'd divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let's start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are...

We hear a lot -- for sound reasons -- about how intercourse by itself isn't very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it's also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn't mean it's not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual...

Well, it can be a big deal, and it is for most people. One thing that is important to understand is that NONE of us -- not you at 13, not me at 37 -- are ever ready and interested in having any kind of sex in the way you're describing when who the other person involved isn't known to us. I mean...