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If your boyfriend hasn't initiated anything sexually, and he gets upset when you talk about it, then it's pretty clear your boyfriend isn't feeling ready for any kind of sex yet and you need to respect that. You can certainly talk to him about this -- making clear that you have no interest in...

Lisa, I can't implore you enough not to take this personally and not to think about this as you being inadequate. You're not inadequate: you two just wanted different things. Our needs and wants and someone else's needs and wants are just not always going to mesh, even when one or both of us really...

(Steve's question continued) I feel weird having to rely to masturbation while having her. We've messed around a lot, meaning making-out, I've done almost everything to her breasts, and rubbed her vagina through her clothes with my hand and penis(dry humping), she has played with my penis through my...

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently...

You know, whether or not a boyfriend wants something from you does not obligate you to give it to him (and vice-versa). I'd totally be down for ditching work for an hour and having sex with my partner right this second. But he's upstairs in his office doing work for himself right now which he needs...

A partner addressing your worries or nervousness about any kind of sex by telling you you need to "grow up," needs to grow up WAY more than you do. In a word, if that's how he responds to this, I'm less worried about him dumping you, and more concerned about you sticking around with the likes of him...

Readiness for sex isn't something that only happens once, or happens once at a certain age. It can be normal at any age, in any situation, for any person not to feel ready for any kind of sex with a partner. When we're first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life...

It seems to me that you're dismissing the fact that your girlfriend may have her own sexual desires, too. Now, whether or not you're who she wants to explore them with, or whether or not she feels like it's the right time in your relationship to do that is something else, but if you two like each...

Learning to communicate with partners about any topic can be tricky. But working out those conversations about sex can be even more difficult. It's really good that you want to discuss things and be open with your partner! Here's the thing though, you can't make someone talk about anything they...

It's fairly unusual for two people to be on the exact same page in the exact same way at the exact same time. It happens, for sure, but especially as relationships are just forming, it's realistic to expect that at any given time, any one person may feel a bit more intense or a bit less about it...