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How Do I Let Go of Feeling Sexually Unattractive?

Porphyria
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I had sex for the first time shortly after turning 20 (about a year ago), but I wish I had done it sooner. I know I had been ready and willing at age 16 or so -- the problem was just that no one was interested in me that way, but in the other girls around me. It still hurts, in a bizarre and surprising way....

What's the best thing your love can offer to others?

How influenced do you feel you are by other people's sexual lives?

The only thing I might not be ready for with sex is what other people will say.

Aliciapash
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I truly think I'm ready for sex, I'm comfortable with myself and my partner and am not at all nervous for losing my virginity. I'm only 16 but people say that different people are ready at different times right? and I think I'm ready now, I've ticked off all of the checkpoints on your "am I ready" checklist but there is one problem. I'm worried about if people will judge me for it....

How safe (free from danger & harm) do you feel identifying your gender around people of a different gender?