I'm closing in on 18 and I've been in a relationship with a girl for a few months. We've had some fun with a little foreplay, going down on each other, mutual masturbation, everything minus sex toys and actual sex. Thing is, I'm really good at fingering her, and I can get two to three actual real orgasms out of her. I have heard in numerous places from numerous people that if a guy is good at fingering, he will most likely be good in bed. I know this is only a somewhat superstition, but do you guys know if this is true in most cases?

This is going to sound stupid but I have a question and its simply this: how do you know when you've orgasmed? I had my first time to other night with a guy I love very much but when he asked me if I came I didn't know. I have no experience at sex at all.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and we're both 18. I've been masturbating pretty regularly since i was about 13 and can reach orgasm myself quite comfortably, and my boyfriend can get me off pretty easily as well, but only if he does exactly what I do to myself. I can't reach orgasm any other way: orally, during intercourse (when I'm on top it feels different, and feels like it may be doing something, but doesn't feel much like it's building to orgasm), fingering, anything but clitoral stimulation by hand. I feel super ticklish whenever his hand strays from where I expect it to go, and I know that this is annoying for him. Thing is, I'm totally comfortable with sex and enjoy the sensation and emotional connection. I'm also totally comfortable with him, we talk about sex pretty openly and I don't get 'nervous' about sex or trying things. So why am I so ticklish and jumpy during foreplay, and unable to reach an orgasm in any way other than how I do it? Am I just too used to well... myself? I also don't really get turned on by anything but my own fantasies (situations in which neither me nor my partner are involved), so it's like my mind isn't really focussed on him at all. It's just like doing it how I'd usually do it on my own :)