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I am a 14 year old bisexual girl. I would like to know how to have sex with a girl and NOT use a vibrator. I want it to be just me and her no object between us. I would like to know how to move my tongue when I am licking her. And I would like to know if it is possible to get on top of her and rub her with my own body and give her and myself pleasure all at the same time? Can you help me?
I have heard people talking about how they have had sex with their boyfriends after just 2 months and it scares me to think that my boyfriend will want it that soon because I'm scared to have sex, not just because of the risks but of what he'll think and all that stuff. We have only been going out for a week and I am not thinking of having sex with him or receiving/giving oral but I'm just thinking about 2 to 3 months from now will he want it? He has told me he won't force me to do anything I'm not comfortable with and he's a really nice guy so I'm pretty sure he won't but his last girlfriend had sex with him after 3 months. Do you have any advice for me?
I am 21 years old, and have a two year old daughter so am obviously no stranger to sex. My new boyfriend, however, is a 22 year old complete virgin. We have tried to have sex on multiple occasions but once we really get ready to go for the gusto he goes limp. All the rest of the time he is extremely erect. He and I both can't understand why he continually can't stay hard even though we have tried every position and possibility in the book. I think it has something to do with the fact that he and I are both Christians, but I think his conviction about having sex before marriage is so heavy it wont allow him to stay hard. Please help!!! It's getting to the point where he wants to try almost every night and I am so tired of trying.
Well, there's a lot going on in my life lately and well, I'm needing help with something. I'm a 20-year-old bisexual male. Here's my problem. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, with whom I had a very long relationship. We started our relationship as virgins, and well, I still am. She had issues with sex and well it was never an issue for me, it wasn't even one of the reasons why I broke up with her, she thinks it was but . . it really wasn't. A couple of weeks ago I met a guy and, well, one thing lead to another and we had the opportunity to have sexual contact. And well, here's where the problem starts. I wasn't able to get an erection. Yes, quite embarrassing trust me. I think that due to my age it is next to impossible that I have an erectile dysfunction problem so I'm thinking it is all psychological. Is it possible that I'm so used to repressing my sexual needs due to my previous relationship that it is affecting my current one? Or is it possible that his way of dealing with foreplay is just not getting me "turned on"? There's no rush to answer my question but I'd love it if you still took the time to answer it. I do understand that you probably get flooded with dozens and dozens of questions every day! Thanks!!
I am an 18 year old female. When I was younger I could not orgasm from masterbation with my fingers. So, two years ago I bought a vibrator for clitoral stimulation (commonly referred to as the "egg" or the "bullet") and had such intense orgasms that I could barely finish. Since then, I have been able to acheive orgasm through manual stimulation with my boyfriend and the intensity of the orgasms that I had with my vibrator subsided so that they were very pleasurable. This past summer I bought a new vibrator because my other one broke, this one has a dildo attached to it and a vibarting part for clitoral stimulation (commonly referred to as the rabbit), but I don't usually penetrate myself with the dildo part because I don't enjoy penetration that isn't from my boyfriend's penis. However, now when I orgasm, with my vibrator or my boyfriend, I barely feel anything. I feel the build up in my legs but not real involuntary muscle contractions in my pelvis, vagina or thighs. Sometimes I feel slight contractions in my perenium or bum. But it's as though the orgasm part of my orgasm is gone. How do I restore the intensity and make my orgasms pleasurable and worth it again? This is really affecting my enjoyment of sex and makes my boyfriend feel like he isn't satisfying me. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
I was wondering how one goes about learning to share their sexuality with another person? I'm 21 and a virgin (older virgins do exist!) for personal and religious reasons. My relationships thus far have consisted primarily of a series of bad first dates... until recently, that is. 3 weeks ago I met a 31 year old man who has opened my eyes to so many things. We get along great, he makes me laugh and appreciates me for who I am.
I have told him I am waiting for marriage to have sex, and he thinks that's great. We have decided to do other stuff, and he has been really good about letting me take the lead, talking about what we're doing and sharing his feelings and experiences. However, for a lot of things he is looking to me for guidance (how to touch me, kiss me, etc.) and I really don't know what to tell him. I've masturbated for 10 years, and have never had a problem having fun by myself, but with another person it is totally different.
There are a number of aspects to it- having another person in my 'personal space', experiencing for the first time what I've been fantasizing about for years (and the reality is quite different!), being nervous, wanting to pleasure him, how to communicate in bed etc.Since I met him, I have been having a hard time masturbating, too. All my fantasies are different.... I'm not sure how or where he fits in.
It's certainly exciting and fun to be discovering these things, but any advice you can give would be much appreciated. Thanks!