masturbation

Masturbation sans Orgasm

Tamara asks:

I'm 23 years old, and I masturbate a lot. Due to being overweight I can't insert my fingers into myself, so mostly I rub my clitoris. I haven't been able to achieve orgasm. Is there anything you can tell me that might help. Thanks.

Can my fantasies be inappropriate?

Friday asks:

I am a straight female with a high sex drive. When I masturbate, I think about men having sex with other men. It's what arouses me the most. I used to just think about a penis or a man masturbating himself. Then I saw a video of men having sex and now that's about all that gets me off. I've even looked for other videos on-line of man on man sex. Is this at all normal? I'm really scared and upset that something's wrong with me for being turned on by gay male sex.
Could it be possible I have penis envy? I'm always thinking about penises and sometimes wishing I had one. I especially love seeing erect penises and ejaculation, and I often wish I had one myself to play with.
Could this be why I'm so turned on by two males having sex - because there's more than one penis?
Please help, I feel really bad about this.

Masturbation and health

madhus_s2001 asks:

My name is Madhu. My age is 23 years. My question is I have been masturbating from 17 years means from 17 to 23 years i masturbated. Means 6 years I had done masturbation. Is it true masturbation spoil or damage health physical? Because my body looks like a 60 years old body. Day by day my body muscles are damaging and I am becoming thin. Is it true or not. Please give me some suggestion or any other probelm also cause this type of health damage.

Thank you

Ejaculation questions

concered boy asks:

Hi I'm 14 and have been masturbating for 2 years now. I masturbate about 2-3 times a day. When i ejaculate the come squirts out about 1 and half feet and i usually have 4 strong squirts of come. Is this normal for my age? What should i do?

Can I play with the cucumber?

AllieCatt asks:

I got a little creative one day and put a well-washed cucumber with Saran Wrap up my vagina while I was horny. I was wondering if this is safe, and if there's anymore ideas that I could use because I don't get pleasure from my fingers.

Can I use the shower head?

Annie asks:

I am 17, and for a long time I have been masturbating using the shower head. My only question really is if there is any danger in that?

What can I use for a vibrator?

Alice asks:

I really love to masturbate, and I've been using a back massager I found in the attic for clitoral stimulation. It feels great, but it is getting kind of old. I was wondering if there was any thing else I could use (other than my hand) to spice things up a bit. And is there any way I can get vibrators without my parents knowing?

Lube and orgasms

Roxy asks:

I was wondering is there any other type of lube I can use around the house instead of KY Jelly?

And when I feel myself, it takes me a while to get to the right spot and when I do get there I start to tremble and I'm not able to go on because I just can't take it, then I stop. I want to keep going, but I'm not able to. I was wondering what can I do to go on with the pleasure? Is this when I have reached my climax?

Overwhelmed with worry about penis size and performance

curiousgeorge asks:

It seems like lately I am just becoming overwhelmed in worry about my self-image directly related to my penis size and performance. It seems like sometimes my penis varies in size and performance while I am masturbating. I am just wondering what are some tips or advice you can give me on how to get full performance and size out of my penis whether its technique or certain muscles to use.

He's ready, but I'm conflicted.

15horses asks:

My boyfriend thinks I should try masturbating before we have sex. It just doesn't feel right to me. I want to be with him and just have him hold me. It's not about just having an orgasm. I don't know how to make him understand this?

Also, my boyfriend wants to have sex. My body feels like it is ready but my brain is saying I should wait. Is 16 to young? I'm afraid he doesn't really love me. I want him to be committed, how should I tell him this?

Masturbation, Penis Size

Hades asks:

Hi, I'm 13 and have been masturbating for a couple of years now. I was wondering if it's normal for a penis to grow larger with masturbation, because mine right now is larger than a 17-year-old's average size.

How do I stop masturbating?

tinku asks:

How can I stop masturbating? I cannot concentrate in my studies, and I think and daydream of sex all the the time. I want to stop it. I become weak and tired after I masturbate. Is this normal?

Is masturbation good for your health?

Suresh asks:

Is masturbutation is good for your health?

Questions about ejaculating

729 asks:

I'm 15 and wondering about ejaculation. my girlfriend's given me handjobs/blowjobs before but i've always stopped her before ejaculating. i just thought it was an extravagant porn type thing to come in her mouth, but the other day my friends convinced me otherwise. It's not because i'm too nervous, i just thought otherwise. is she expecting me to go in her mouth, or are most handjobs/blowjobs used for foreplay.

oh, and i'm partially asking this because (differently from when i masturbate) she gets me excited a lot quicker and it doesn't take long before I'm know im going to ejaculate. i've only got oral a few times, is it because these times are my first, or do you think i won't grow out of that.

How one goes about learning to share their sexuality with another person?

Naptha asks:

I was wondering how one goes about learning to share their sexuality with another person? I'm 21 and a virgin (older virgins do exist!) for personal and religious reasons. My relationships thus far have consisted primarily of a series of bad first dates... until recently, that is. 3 weeks ago I met a 31 year old man who has opened my eyes to so many things. We get along great, he makes me laugh and appreciates me for who I am.

I have told him I am waiting for marriage to have sex, and he thinks that's great. We have decided to do other stuff, and he has been really good about letting me take the lead, talking about what we're doing and sharing his feelings and experiences. However, for a lot of things he is looking to me for guidance (how to touch me, kiss me, etc.) and I really don't know what to tell him. I've masturbated for 10 years, and have never had a problem having fun by myself, but with another person it is totally different.

There are a number of aspects to it- having another person in my 'personal space', experiencing for the first time what I've been fantasizing about for years (and the reality is quite different!), being nervous, wanting to pleasure him, how to communicate in bed etc.Since I met him, I have been having a hard time masturbating, too. All my fantasies are different.... I'm not sure how or where he fits in.

It's certainly exciting and fun to be discovering these things, but any advice you can give would be much appreciated. Thanks!