masturbation

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  • Sam Wall
  • Heather Corinna

A short, fast, sex ed summary about masturbation.

Advice
  • Sam Wall

Your question came in well before COVID-19 was on the horizon, but ever since it reared its virus-y head, a LOT of people are finding themselves in your situation. If someone experiences sexual attraction or desire, there is going to be a point in their lives where they feel sexual urges they can't...

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  • Heather Corinna

Self-love. Solo sex. Jacking off, jilling off, whacking off. Paddling the pink canoe, pocket pinball, teasing the kitty, testing the plumbing, spanking the monkey, surfing the channel. No matter what you call it—or how goofy what you call it is—masturbation is one of the few things that almost everyone does, has done or will do. Here's some most basic things to know about it.

Advice
  • Mo Ranyart

This is a great question, and it's great that you're asking it. Stopping these comments altogether might not be possible, but there are things you can say in response and ways you can help change the tone of the conversation. First off, I want to talk a little about why your friends may be...

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  • Sam Wall
  • s.e. smith

Dating and romance can be fraught spaces for anyone, regardless of their gender. But a common, specific fear we see among trans and otherwise gender-nonconforming users is that their gender identity means that no one will want to be their partner, that no one will ever find them attractive, or that it will limit their sexual orientation. Those fears can come from all sorts of places, be that messages from your family or the images of trans people you see on TV. Let’s pull those worries out into the light and take a closer look at them

Advice
  • Sam Wall

The short answer is yep, using a vibrator should not compromise an IUD should you choose to get one. You can banish fears of enjoying a session with your favorite external vibe only to see your IUD on the floor. If you're concerned about the interaction between the IUD strings and an inserted toy...

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  • Sam Wall

First off, let's get one thing very clear: having sex or masturbating does not cause any changes to your body. (We have written about this before, and will likely have to keep reiterating it until I retire/the internet explodes/the sun goes out and all life on earth is destroyed.) There is no test...

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

Before I say anything else, I want to address about those feelings of shame and inadequacy you had -- from the sounds of it, are still having -- when your partner told you his feelings about your sex life. Someone feeling like their sexual life or interactions with someone else aren't satisfying, or...

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  • Sam Wall
  • Isabella Rotman

A nifty little how-to for making and safely using sex toys for masturbation. Also starring: possibly the cutest little sex toy illustrations of ever.

Advice
  • Sam Wall

Let's tackle those apparently "raging" hormones first. Having strong sexual desires is nothing to be ashamed of. People have a range of sex drives, from high to non-existent, and even then, that's rarely static: in other words, it's often less a "way people are," than a way someone is at a given...