I get really really wet! It's really gross. My boyfriend wants to go down on me and finger me, but I don't want him to think I'm gross. Is it normal to be so wet? Will he think it's ok?

I have fingered my girlfriend quite a few times now. I can only get one finger up there and she never seems to react, just stands there as if nothing is going on. Am I doing something wrong?

Is it a valid concern to be worried about my boyfriend washing his hands before he fingers me? I know he should if he has semen or pre-cum on his hands, but as a guy he hardly washes his hands. You know how some guys are and if I tell him he still won't do it. Could I get infections or could he spread germs that have been on his hands this way? I know the vagina keeps itself pretty clean, so should I do anything about it? Thanks a lot.

My girlfriend likes being fingered really hard. She likes two fingers as far as I can get them then to push up and pull out as hard as I possibly can against the bone. I absolutely hate this. It scares me that I might hurt her. So is okay to be that hard? will I hurt anything?

Is it okay for a man to finger you?

My boyfriend fingered me for the first time, and at first it kind of hurt. I want to know what was causing that to happen, and what we could do next time for it to feel better.

Hi Scarleteen community,

Me and my girlfriend are super scared. But after reading a lot of stuff "online" it seems like our problems is solved, but not quite. This began almost last week when I finger my girlfriend. (we are both virgins). We are scared to death now she could be pregnant. I remembered inserting my whole finger into her vagina and I don't remember if I had any precum on my finger. (Definitely not cum). But the precum could be very minimal and If there was any I would of probably whipped it on myself before entering her vagina because I really do respect her and I would never ever want to do anything to get her pregnant because we are both not ready for that yet. Is there a minimal chance that she could be pregnant? I hear answers all over the internet from "50/50" to "1 in a million if the precum was less than 1 inch", but I still am not sure, and she won't be getting her period for another 3 weeks. Is been really frustrating so far... and today she spotted "1 drop" or blood on her panties. She kept telling me that it was no more than "1 drop", could this be a sign to anything? And again I searched on internet and all these answers saying "she's pregnant", "1 drop means nothing". Can anyone give me a clear answer? is really no more than 1 drop of blood. Please...any help will be great, me and my girlfriend is having a really difficult time right now.

P.S: I also heard pregnancy test could tell us the result right away? If so where can I buy them at?

Thank you everyone's help!! Any help IS appreciated..

-fender12345

Okay, I am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16. I'm a virgin and we were trying to have sex. I'm so scared that I'm pregnant because I keep thinking that there was sperm on his finger when he fingered me. I just finished my period about two days ago. Even if there wasn't sperm on his finger, I keep thinking that there might have been a hole in the condom! I can't even think of anything else! I am so scared and the pills is over $39.99 and I can't talk to my mom about it because she will make a big deal about it cause I sneaked out today to see him. What do i do?

This may sound very stupid. My boyfriend fingered me twice the day after my period ended last month. I never gave him a hand-job and he says no pre-cum ever came out of his penis when he got an erection. He washed his hands thoroughly before I came to his house and he took a shower. The last time he ejaculated was 24 hours ago when he masturbated in his bed. The first time he fingered me was about an hour after I arrived at his house (mostly just heavy petting, no penetration). The second time was about 2 hours after the first time. He went to the bathroom and washed his hands before this. This time he stuck his finger in about 2 inches for a few seconds. He also ate me out for a few seconds. I got what seemed to be my normal period except for the fact that breasts hurt for 2 weeks beforehand instead of the usual 1 week and my period was about a day short. My breasts stopped hurting once my period started.
Could I have become pregnant from any dry sperm that was left on his bed sheets from him masturbating the night before?

I was fingering a girl that I have been hanging out with for a while now and she's a cool girl. She's had sex before and is not a virgin but when I was fingering her, I felt the cherry and then after we were done she said she started her period. This isn' the first time a girl has started to bleed cause of me fingering them and its not cause I have long nails, my nails are fine. So I told her about my past times and that I don't think its your period and she said she was never early and that she's not due for another 8 days! I think its cause I hit their cherry again. Is that possible to break a girl's cherry...again?! Help.

I'm 17 and my boyfriend (16) and I have been dating for 2 years. We have decided to not have intercourse, but we do have manual sex sometimes. The last time we fooled around was about 2 1/2 to 3 weeks ago. I had my period last week, and it was on time, but only red blood for 2 days; then it was pinkish brownish stuff. Today and yesterday I've been peeing nonstop. My boyfriend doesn't think he pre-cums, ever, but I did feel something at the tip of his penis--was it urine maybe? I'm worried that maybe he had pre-cum on his fingers when he touched me (he went in pretty deep) or that I touched myself with it using the bathroom. I'm really worried that I'm pregnant; please help.

I'm a nearly 16 year old woman who needs help...A while ago and recently, my boyfriend fingered me vaginal to anal to vaginal, but not sex. I've recently read that you can get serious vaginal infections from passing bacteria from the anus to the vagina. Am I OK to leave it be because it wasn't sex, or should I still get it checked out, just to be on the safe side?

I really love this website, & I'm pretty sure I've read all of the articles on here (many twice). I still have a question, though.

I'm a 20 year old female who has had no sexual encounters, but want to be totally prepared whenever those opportunities arise. In a lot of the articles, you say in order to successfully move onto vaginal intercourse with a partner it is important to have participated in the precursors beforehand (i.e. cuddling, kissing, manual sex, oral sex, etc). This makes perfectly logical sense, and I agree with it, but I personally am shyer about manual and oral sex than I am about vaginal intercourse. Is that normal? How do I get over it?

My boyfriend and I have been have been kinda sexual active for about 6 months. No sex, just playing with each other. Now since he is the first guy I've done anything of this sort with and with him I'm the first girl, I expected some pain and tightness when he first started out fingering me. However, now I've loosened up more, I still feel a slight discomfort type pain along with pleasure. I can try and ignore this but it makes me tense up and he accidentally hurts me more. We have tried most things like kissing during it, and many different positions but I still have that pain. I just want to know what this pain is and how I can stop it. Thank you for your time :)

My GF and I have been together for 6 months. We are both virgins. I have fingered her quite a few times and she likes it best just rubbing the outside. She does like me to go in occasionally but not very far. Maybe just a third of my finger. She is very cute and innocent and doesn't know a lot even about her own anatomy. If I go in too far she says it hurts sometimes. Is this something to do with her hymen? Will this pain slowly wear away?