To: Current Resident of That Broken-Down House

Why was I staying in a house that was falling apart all around me more and more? Why did I keep trying to convince myself I could fix everything when I knew I couldn't, or that my landlord would suddenly do all kinds of things he'd never done? Why did I keep focusing on the small things that I loved about the house when the big things were so awful? Why was I staying so focused on what this house could be, rather than focusing on the way it actually was and was most likely to remain?

One of the big things that got me to these realizations about my house were conversations with some of you about your unhealthy, abusive or otherwise crummy relationships.

You, Them and a U-Haul: Considering Cohabitation

Are you at a point in your life and relationship where you're considering moving in with a partner? We've got the scoop on some things to consider, talk through and get going in advance to be sure that if you make the move to shack up, it's a good one.

So far, so great!

It's been an incredibly excellent week for myself, Scarleteen, and -- in my opinion -- the world at large.

We have the first woman speaker of the House in history -- now democratic -- today, the fantastic, feminist Nancy Pelosi.

We're THIS close to a democratic Senate win, and Dems dominate the Governors. We now have 82 women -- 82 women! -- in the Senate.

The South Dakota abortion ban was overturned (thanks, SD voters, for turning out in record numbers!), and prop 85 also didn't pass.