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We talk about this a lot here at Scarleteen: virginity isn't physical or anything that can be universally proven or disproven with body parts. It's an intellectual concept, an idea, a belief, and perhaps most accurately, a word for identity some people use, usually to identify when they or others...

It's up to you to decide if this was sex and if this had anything to do with virginity. What I can do to help you with that is give you some definitions, backgrounds and perspective on those terms, some advice on making sexual choices in alignment with what you really want and feel ready for and...

Here are some other questions we've had like this one recently: I'm a newly married man. I was suspecting my wife was a virgin but the result came opposite then what I was suspecting. When we had sex for the first time there was no bleeding and I did not feel the vagina is so tight. It means is my...

Count me in as one more voice in the choir saying that I highly doubt G-d is punishing you for having sex outside marriage by somehow making you not want sex within it, or making your sex life in a marriage unhappy. My own spiritual belief system doesn't involve a god, but I did more than my fair...

There aren't any "shoulds" here. Not all people with vaginas bleed with first-time intercourse or other kinds of vaginal entry: in fact, most don't. Why some people do -- and for how long they do -- and some don't also varies. As to how many people with vaginas do and don't bleed after first...

Actually, that's not true about animals. But I'm glad you brought it up, because these are some of my favorite kinds of questions. We can find groups of animals engaging in almost any kind of behavior we find human beings engaging in. When it comes to oral sex -- be that with a partner or done by...

Vibrators cannot "desensitize" anyone in any permanent way. There have never been any findings through sound research which have shown that vibrators or other vigorous stimulation of the clitoris do anyone harm or change anyone's anatomy or sexual response permanently. Sure, they can kind of numb...

The way to check if you're still a virgin is to ask yourself how you define virginity, and see if or how your definition matches up with your experiences. In other words, there is NO -- and I mean none, zero, nunca, aucun, keine -- physical way to determine if someone is a virgin, because virginity...

Hi there, metronidazole (Flagyl) is the most common treatment for bacterial vaginosis (BV). While many people who contract BV don't show symptoms, when they do, the discharge that usually occurs is milky-greyish and fishy-smelling. that doesn't really fit with the description you gave. However it is...

Sometimes we have no idea how things will affect us, no idea about the million ways in which one event can influence our lives. When I ran out of the driveway that day, across the street and to our house, I had no idea that the hard part was still to come. One volunteer's story of her history with sexual abuse, and her journey to healing.