I am in a bit of a pickle. I am ok with my boyfriend fingering me, but I never tell him to, or even elude to it. But I am uncomfortable with giving him hand jobs. I mean, we will be lying down on the couch, and he will just start sliding his hands down to unbutton my pants. I won't resist (unless I am on my period, or am not in a sexual mood) but feel awkward when he then wants me to give him a handjob. How do I tell him this, because even though I do enjoy him fingering me, and I think he likes it too, I don't want to give him hand jobs, and don't want our relationship to become one wayed...what do I do?

I'm 15 and wondering about ejaculation. my girlfriend's given me handjobs/blowjobs before but i've always stopped her before ejaculating. i just thought it was an extravagant porn type thing to come in her mouth, but the other day my friends convinced me otherwise. It's not because i'm too nervous, i just thought otherwise. is she expecting me to go in her mouth, or are most handjobs/blowjobs used for foreplay.

oh, and i'm partially asking this because (differently from when i masturbate) she gets me excited a lot quicker and it doesn't take long before I'm know im going to ejaculate. i've only got oral a few times, is it because these times are my first, or do you think i won't grow out of that.