I’m a 19 year old girl and I’ve been masturbating since I was 14. I usually do it every day, sometimes more than once. My boyfriend is quite willing to please when it comes to oral sex, but lately it isn’t doing much for me. Even masturbation is less satisfying than it used to be, and needs a firmer touch. You hear of guys who worry that too much masturbation has made their penis less sensitive to the extent that they can’t come during penetrative sex – can the same thing happen to a clitoris? And, more importantly, is there anything I can do about it?

I am an 18 year old female. When I was younger I could not orgasm from masterbation with my fingers. So, two years ago I bought a vibrator for clitoral stimulation (commonly referred to as the "egg" or the "bullet") and had such intense orgasms that I could barely finish. Since then, I have been able to acheive orgasm through manual stimulation with my boyfriend and the intensity of the orgasms that I had with my vibrator subsided so that they were very pleasurable. This past summer I bought a new vibrator because my other one broke, this one has a dildo attached to it and a vibarting part for clitoral stimulation (commonly referred to as the rabbit), but I don't usually penetrate myself with the dildo part because I don't enjoy penetration that isn't from my boyfriend's penis. However, now when I orgasm, with my vibrator or my boyfriend, I barely feel anything. I feel the build up in my legs but not real involuntary muscle contractions in my pelvis, vagina or thighs. Sometimes I feel slight contractions in my perenium or bum. But it's as though the orgasm part of my orgasm is gone. How do I restore the intensity and make my orgasms pleasurable and worth it again? This is really affecting my enjoyment of sex and makes my boyfriend feel like he isn't satisfying me. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

I have been with my boyfriend for about three months and I am not sure if I'm ready to have sex. How do you really know if you're ready? We have talked about sex before and he wants to do it but I'm just not sure if I want to or not. We have done other things and have also talked about those and if it felt good for us. It was just a little bit awkward talking about it with him at first, then I got more comfortable. He's not pressuring me into doing it, I just want to make sure I'm absolutely ready because I don't want to regret it.

There is another question I would like to ask. If you have been masturbating for quite some time (by rubbing my clit), and I mean a long time, will I only be able to get pleasure from rubbing or will having sex feel good too? I have read somewhere that you can get used to one thing and only be able to feel pleasure from it. My boyfriend has fingered me, it hurt a little at first but then it didn't. It's not that I hated it, but I also didn't get pleasure from it. I'm scared that I won't be able to get pleasure from anything else other than rubbing. Please help.