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I think one of the coolest things about sex is that it's a lot like our taste in music. When it comes to music, we get to like what we like, and listen only to what we want to listen to when we get a choice. Obviously, in the grocery store or at a club what we hear not going to be up to us, but that...

My best advice is to just try and let yourself go there. I think the safest way to do that, emotionally, would be to first try that in whichever sexual situation you tend to feel safest in, whether that's alone, in your masturbation, or during sexual activities with a partner. More people than not...

You know, our gut feelings are usually very trustworthy. When we find we feel very scared and nervous, it's usually because we have good reason to be. Those kinds of feelings are usually excellent cues for making our best choices. I'm not 15. I'm in my 40s. I've been engaging in sex for a very long...

If you feel crampy and bloated, and you didn't miss your last period, it's more likely in terms of those symptoms and the timing of things that you're experiencing PMS symptoms rather than pregnancy symptoms. However, if you've been having unprotected intercourse, pregnancy is a very real...

Because you don't want to have any kind of sex or a given kind of sex now, in a given relationship, or don't feel ready now or in this relationship does not mean you won't ever. There are many, many kinds of sex -- not just intercourse, and sex also includes masturbation, having sex by ourselves...

I'm not going to be able to tell you exactly what happened here, because I wasn't in your head or his, I don't know what the dynamics of this relationship are or have been like outside of this context and I don't know your sexual history, including with this person. This is one of those posts I wish...

No one ever needs a reason to say no to anything, just like you don't need a reason to say yes to something. It sounds to me like you have been very clear when it comes to what you do not want to do. You even put a very clear date on it, so since you said that it won't happen until you're at least...

That question probably either sounds like a really important one or a really stupid one, depending on your view. But I want the answer regardless, and am seriously tired of waiting for it. That's why I went ahead and asked it myself. As an organization that provides information on all methods of...

I wish that I could give you one simple, short and objective answer for what love is, but unfortunately, I can't. That's a question people have been asking for probably as long as there have been people, and as of yet, while there have been millions of answers, I don't think anyone has arrived at...

For starters, congratulations for seeking treatment and starting on your road to recovery. You deserve major recognition for that; it's not easy but taking those first steps are so important, if hard, and I'm really proud of you! My quick answer to your two questions is that you are definitely not...