My girlfriend and I share many fantasies etc. all the time. Yesterday, she told me that, quite often, when she's fantasizing while masturbating, as she approaches orgasm she begins to be the man, having something sexual done to his/her/its penis, and that when she's coming, she's envisioning the penis ejaculating (which I'm sure is normal) and that SHE is the bearer of the ejaculating penis! I know I've read over and over again on related sites (like jackinworld) that fantasizing about the same sex during masturbation is common and healthy, but I've never seen anything about this! Is this normal too, or should I be wondering whether she's transsexual/transgendered (whether she realizes it or not)??

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 7 months now and masturbation is a comfortable topic between us. We talk about it and we share feelings and such bout it. My question is if my girl friend asks me what or who I fantasized about and it wasn't her ... If I was to tell her that, she would really get upset and get the idea that I think she's not sexy. I really do think she's sexy but I don't know what to say if she asks me that question. I don't want to lie to her but what else can I do? Does this mean that I'm not true to her, because I might fantasize about some one else?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and we're both 18. I've been masturbating pretty regularly since i was about 13 and can reach orgasm myself quite comfortably, and my boyfriend can get me off pretty easily as well, but only if he does exactly what I do to myself. I can't reach orgasm any other way: orally, during intercourse (when I'm on top it feels different, and feels like it may be doing something, but doesn't feel much like it's building to orgasm), fingering, anything but clitoral stimulation by hand. I feel super ticklish whenever his hand strays from where I expect it to go, and I know that this is annoying for him. Thing is, I'm totally comfortable with sex and enjoy the sensation and emotional connection. I'm also totally comfortable with him, we talk about sex pretty openly and I don't get 'nervous' about sex or trying things. So why am I so ticklish and jumpy during foreplay, and unable to reach an orgasm in any way other than how I do it? Am I just too used to well... myself? I also don't really get turned on by anything but my own fantasies (situations in which neither me nor my partner are involved), so it's like my mind isn't really focussed on him at all. It's just like doing it how I'd usually do it on my own :)