Hey, I'm a college student. I've never had sex (of any kind) with anyone else, but I started masturbating a few years ago, mostly in bed right before I go to sleep. I generally have a very hard time getting my brain to turn off at night, and I've found that masturbating is often the only way I can manage to get to sleep easily at night. When I'm on my own, this is fine, but during the school year, I have a roommate.

Last year (and I'm not proud of this), I masturbated after we both went to bed, mostly because I'm very quiet about it and was pretty sure she wouldn't be able to tell. Next year, though, our room is such that we're going to have to bunk our beds. Most likely I'll be on top. It strikes me as downright rude to masturbate in that particular arrangement, and I really wouldn't want to do it if she could detect it. On the other hand, during the school year, I usually don't get enough sleep anyway. Without masturbating, it usually takes me at least 45 minutes to get to sleep, often more, and that can really cut into my sleep time as a whole.

Do you have any advice on how I could break the habit or get around it? Is there something else I can do?