I was wondering, if it was possible, if you could reply to me by the soonest time, because I really need to know this. Is there ANYTHING I can do to stop the first time I have sex being really painful? I'm fourteen, and my 22 year old boyfriend really wants to have sex. I have said yes, after we talked about it, and I think I am ready, but I want it to be perfect, not painful! Is there anything at all I can do to stop the pain? I am seeing him this Sunday, and that's when we are going to have sex.