communication

It’s fairly unusual for two people to be on the exact same page in the exact same way at the exact same time. It happens, for sure, but especially as relationships are just forming, it’s realistic to expect that at any given time, any one person may feel a bit more intense or a bit less about it…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…

Have you seen your health care provider about this problem yet? If not, then that’s the very first place to go. You need to get checked out and make sure that everything physically is alright with you right now. You should also make sure that you tell your health care provider specifically that you…

You know, I really wish I could get a hold of whomever started this obsession with vaginal “tightness” and have a few choice words with them. Most of the words I’d have to say would not be very nice. But since that person is not here right now, all I can do is try to clear up a few of the…

Was this actually diagnosed by a health care provider as being a yeast infection? If it was, then your provider should have told you how long you should wait before becoming sexually active again. If it was not, then you need to get yourself to your health care provider or clinic to get this checked…

While your risks for STI transmission may be lesser if both of you have not ever been sexually active in any way, it does not totally negate the risk. Not being “sexually involved” can mean lots of things for different people. Some people might only consider “sexually involved” to mean having…

In terms of your current lateness, keep in mind that you won’t have your withdrawl bleed (you don’t have real “periods” when you’re on hormonal birth control because you are not ovulating) at the exact time that you had it before you were on the birth control. Your cycles will probably be around 28…