communication

Leave a note for her saying, “Hey, I know you really dig your new guy and all, but I was wondering if you and me could hang out together sometime. Just us. You’re still my best friend no matter what, and I miss you.” Some people get really wrapped up in the excitement of new relationships, and they…

It’s the position that you and your partner find immensely pleasurable at that moment in place and time. The answer to your question is going to change based on where you are, how you’re feeling, and who you’re with. So you and your partner get to figure out what’s working and what’s not. If…

As loving and wonderful as your girlfriend may be, she needs to understand that you have boundaries, too. Negotiating sex can be a major hurdle for many couples, and there are a lot of people in your position – you are trying to live your life by a certain batch of morals, and they’re in conflict…

I hear people talking about foreplay and pretend like I know what it is, but I have never really understood. Heather Corinna answers this question about foreplay.

Travis, it sounds like you do already seem to have a pretty good idea of what her concerns are, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job in trying to be sure that whatever you do is something you both can feel good about. In other words, I think you need my help less than you probably think that…

You seem to be asking two separate questions here: 1) If it’s okay to have an open relationship now, and 2) If it’s a wise idea to sleep with someone who dumped you because you wouldn’t sleep with them. Let’s hit #2 first, since it’s pretty easy. For real? For real you want to sleep with someone who…

We don’t condemn or dismiss any kind of relationship model around here. What model is right for any given person or couple is highly individual, and depends on what the people involve want and need. There’s no one right kind of relationship for everyone, and we’ve talked about casual sexual…

It seems to me that you’re dismissing the fact that your girlfriend may have her own sexual desires, too. Now, whether or not you’re who she wants to explore them with, or whether or not she feels like it’s the right time in your relationship to do that is something else, but if you two like each…

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we’ve been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few…

It’s very typical for condom use to contribute to longer lasting erections. Because they do reduce sensation somewhat – especially if you’re not putting a little lube inside, or using the thinnest condoms – and because the ring at the bottom of a condom also constricts the base of the penis, that…