attraction

I think this is a really great question, and I admire how honestly you've asked something that leaves people feeling so vulnerable. It's something we've had others bring up or ask about over the years, so it's definitely relevant to more people than just yourself. And that includes people who did...

Here's the short answer: personally, what I call it is just being alive. The world can be a really beautiful place, and so can all of the people in it. When we're observant, open, and not feeling horribly bitter or distraught about ourselves or our world, we tend to notice and appreciate beauty...

There is little in the world that varies as much as human sexuality does. So, even when we have a couple common variables -- let's say all 18 or 19-year-old women: both an age and a single sex or gender there -- we are still going to see a huge variety within that group based on all the other...

I hear you that this is a tough situation to be in, turbo! It certainly may seem like the reverse of what most people face when they are questioning their sexual orientation. However, I assure you that it is actually much more common than one might think. For all the great resources there are about...

I will start by saying that, as confusing as this situation may seem right now, you have a really good head on your shoulders: You know who you are and what you're interested in, and seem OK with it. That right there is fantastic, because it's something that many people of all ages continue to...

What I don't know is how strongly attracted you've felt to your boyfriend over the years, well before now. I bring that up because loving someone doesn't always mean we want to have sex with that person, or that we're sexually attracted to them. In some ways, sexual chemistry is something separate...

Whether or not you're going to believe me, I'll be plain with you anyway. Your lack of confidence and low self-esteem are ALWAYS going to be a WAY bigger impediment to "getting the attention," and more importantly, to having great relationships with romantic partners AND friends...and most...