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If you didn't have safer sex in the past, but do now, what changed that the most?

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Sat, 2012-05-12 08:03
Submitted by Heather Corinna on Sat, 2012-05-12 08:03

I was raped and that's how I

Tue, 2012-05-29 00:35
Anonymous

I was raped and that's how I lost my virginity. he did not use a condom. now, I date someone who respects my 'no's and always does use protection whenever we decide to do it. I'm also on birth control. x

For future reference, when we

Wed, 2012-05-30 13:19
Heather Corinna

For future reference, when we ask about people's sexual choices here, we're talking about when they really have choices.

Here at Scarleteen, we don't call rape sex for a victim, just like we wouldn't say that someone who got mugged gave someone their wallet or purse as a gift. When we talk or ask about sex, we're taking about consensual sex. When we're talking about rape or other kinds of abuse or assault, we use those terms.

Just FYI...

Wed, 2012-05-16 18:07
Heather Corinna

When we say "safer sex," we're talking about practices, behaviors and tools expressly about reducing the risks of sexually transmitted infections, not about the prevention of pregnancy.

By all means, one part of safer sex, using latex barriers, when it's a condom during PIV intercourse, also has the added bonus of helping to prevent pregnancy. But STI testing, discussions about infections, and making sexual choices with the aim of reducing STI risks either don't or usually don't impact preventing pregnancy.

So, think of this poll as something different than about if you chose to use condoms as contraception or not: safer sex, as a term, is about STI prevention. :)

I wasn't ready to raise

Wed, 2012-05-16 12:44
Anonymous

I wasn't ready to raise another human-being.

STI scare

Sun, 2012-05-13 08:54
Anonymous

And then I broke up with my virgin ex (whom did not give me this scare)

Teen Pregnancy

Sun, 2012-05-13 06:07
Anonymous

Teen Pregnancy

Pregnancy scare.

Sat, 2012-05-12 08:28
Anonymous

Yep.

Agreed. I also had a friend

Sat, 2012-05-12 22:01
Anonymous

Agreed. I also had a friend in HS whom would occasionally skip school and she would grab a TON of condoms. Since both my partner and I didn't have access to vehicles of our own, she was the one who single-handedly enabled us to be much safer in our alone time. I am eternally thankful to this grrl and said partner and I are still together. Not to say that using condoms will keep you with your partner, but we did fight a lot whenever we had a scare, the stress was intense.


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