I hit pretty much every category of privilege except close conformity to beauty norms and physical ability (I have chronic back problems, though they don't *usually* impede my day-to-day functioning), neither of which have been problematic (as far as I can tell) when dating someone who is advantaged relative to me along those two vectors. Being aware of that, I try to check my own privilege as much as possible, especially in intimate relationships.
I have run into problems with this in two unexpected areas. First with people who grew up in nuclear families, it's not a dynamic I grew up in so I don't understand it all. People don't always get why I have a difficult time bonding with all (male) members of their family. Secondly, I always have problems with people who have been more emotionally privileged than I have. It's ridiculously frustrating trying to explain that I have literally almost no emotional IQ. on the flip side I notice that people who are very Erroll emotionally versed have no idea how to reach something that Congress so second nature to them.
I voted economic privelege, it's never been a huge problem but I sometimes feel guilty about leeching off my boyfriend even though he's told me more than once not to worry about it.
I wasnt sure if it counted, or if it might be under education (:P), but the hardest 'inequality' i have found in a relationship was having a relationship with someone who had a lot more sexual experience. The boyfriend who i lost my virginity had quite a few previous sexual partners and i always worried that i wouldnt live up to them, or that he would think i was prudish/naive/immature. Luckily, we were in a relationship and he had ended his days of sleeping around (which is where he got his experience from), and he was very understanding and loving when it came to my nervousness about sex
Just in case some of you don't know what we're on about here, when we talk about privilege, we mean: a right, immunity, or benefit enjoyed only by a person beyond the advantages of most, or the principle or condition of enjoying special rights or immunities.
For example, white privilege, male privilege, heterosexual privilege, privilege based on citizenship status, size, money, etc.
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