I am only fifteen, so perhaps I haven't hit the horrible bit yet, but honestly I've never felt better about myself. I've found it much easier to talk to people in recent years, and I seem to be able to rationalize myself through the hormones. And sure I have acne, but hey, just part of life. I'm pretty sure that I'd have a lot lower self-esteem if I weren't home schooled though, given my interactions with fellow teens. Public schools sound like hell.
But ah...yeah. At this point I'm just looking forward to college.
So glad I'm out of them. My father was abusive and it was the first time I tried to kill myself.
My teen years sucked. In the beginning I was painfully shy and unpopular. When I finally started to come out of my shell a little as a senior I ended up pregnant from my very first boyfriend/ sexual expirience. For the rest of my teen years I was dealing with massive body changes resulting in terrible self esteem, lots of pain, a colicky baby and a husband that slept around and ignored me. So yeah they sucked.
Hindsight being 20/20, I see now how bad they really were even if it didn't always seem like it at the time. While going though them (I'm 23 now), often I just muddled through and tried not to dwell on the awfulness. Now I see how horrible some things were, and how my coping was a mixed blessing--it did allow me to get through, but it has provided a hell of a lot of work to adjust to a more "normal" way of being in the world.
I feel like this is one of those polls where it would be interesting (and more accurate) to be able to check multiple options--not that I'm asking for it, because it seems like it'd be a hell of a lot of work. But I know that for me personally, my teenagehood (nearly over; I turned nineteen a couple months ago) it's been the best years of my life so far, because I have grown so much and experienced so many amazing things and met so many incredible people; then again, it's also been a mixture of good and bad, especially as compared to my childhood. There's been a lot more conflict, but for the most part it's been very satisfyingly resolved, and overall led to improvements in my life and relationships. I struggled with an unhealthy relationship and learning who I was and what I wanted, both in relationships with myself and others and in relation to the idea of a purpose to my life.
And, y'know, it's been the best years of my life *so far*. It's hard to imagine how things could get more wonderful, although I have a few ideas, but I'm willing to bet that it just gets better from here. :D
I'm having a tough time finding the words to explain why my teen years were lousy. I just wasn't happy (for so many reasons) and my decisions reflected that. I do want to say that I'm sad to see the majority of those polled, so far, feel the same way.
two kids: 21 yrs, 13 yrs.
I think for me, my teenage years were a time of personal growth and learning. I'm 20 now and I think the last 8 years have been a major rollercoaster. I learnt a hell of a lot about relationships, mental wellbeing, love, education and most importantly the importance of friendship and family.
I've had a mixed bag - I had some great times, including a lot of academic success and an amazing and supportive romantic relationship. I've also had a lot of family conflict and struggles with depression and suicidal thoughts. I'm glad to be out of my teen years, but I wouldn't want to erase them from my history. They were important in shaping who I am now.
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