My experience with sex (of any kind) with partners has been that:

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It's been totally awesome for me, every single time.
11% (141 votes)
It's been pretty good.
18% (232 votes)
It's been just okay or kind of whatever.
6% (72 votes)
It's been pretty underwhelming or not-so-great.
4% (53 votes)
It's been totally awful for me, every single time.
2% (20 votes)
It's been a mixed bag: awesome sometimes, good others, and blah or even bad sometimes.
35% (440 votes)
I haven't ever engaged in any kind of sexual activity with a partner.
24% (302 votes)
Total votes: 1260


Just an FYI: not asking about assault or abuse here.

We're talking about partnered sex (not rape, not abuse), meaning sex when everyone involved is consenting and willingly engaging in sex together.

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It would be a lie to say that it was awesome every time, but my overall experience has been quite positive. I can't think of a time when it was *bad*.

The consentual intimacy was good, every time. But this was before I finally admitted that I had been sexually abused and still had all those memories repressed. Now, I can't see sex ever being enjoyable, let alone not painful.

It's been great for my partner pretty much every time, but I just don't get much enjoyment out of it.

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