How many partners for oral, vaginal or anal sex have you had? (only answers from those under 25 years old, please)

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24% (1128 votes)
22% (1049 votes)
13% (634 votes)
8% (388 votes)
5% (221 votes)
4% (184 votes)
Five to ten
8% (387 votes)
Ten to fifteen
5% (216 votes)
Fifteen to twenty
3% (127 votes)
Twenty to thirty
2% (92 votes)
More than thirty
6% (281 votes)
Total votes: 4707


i've only had sex with my boyfriend of 7 and a half months because i loveee him!!!!

I would have felt better about answering that if not for having to count oral ...

    I've never had sex and am not ready yet but I have have and given orals so...

    It might help to take a look at this: What's Sex?

    From that link: "When we say "sex," what we mean is any number of different things people freely choose to do to tangibly and actively express or enact their sexuality; what they identify or know to be their sexual feelings.

    If "sex" was the answer, the questions would be things like "What am I doing to try and feel good sexually or to express feeling good sexually? What am I doing that feels sexual to me (or to me and a partner)? What am I doing that feels like a way to express my sexuality, or my sexual desires and/or feelings about myself or others?"

    The thing is, oral sex is a kind of sex, just like intercourse is a kind of sex. It may also help to remember that there are people who have whole lives where they never engage in intercourse, but instead in other sexual activities, and telling them they haven't had sex lives because they haven't had one kind of sex, or the kinds of sexual partners where they can even have that kind of sex isn't sound.

    Plus, from a medical/health perspective, oral sex poses some health risks just like intercourse.

    Really, the idea it isn't sex usually comes from one of two places (and sometimes both): from people being heterosexist or from people really wanting oral sex not to "count" as sex, a la, President Clinton. We might also want to factor in there that sometimes people who have never had intercourse have the idea it's way different than other kinds of sex, an idea that, if and when they do engage in intercourse, they usually realize wasn't sound. But either way, it really doesn't serve people to only count one kind of sex as "sex" and to deny everything else is, for a whole mess of reasons.

    Editor & Founder, Scarleteen: Sex Ed for the Real World
    Author, S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-to-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and Col

    i am polyamorous, an ethical slut, and liberated!

    I answered this honestly (one person), unlike the 6% who selected 'more than thirty'. ;P

    I wouldn't normally publish a comment like this, because what it does is suggest that the range of human sexual experience isn't real, or that only one person's experiences can be real while anothers' cannot be.

    But I did because I wanted to make sure to address this. People under 25 having thirty or more partners is fairly unusual, but that's why we're only seeing around 6% reporting that. However, I'd not at all say that 6% of people having had that many partners for one or more of these kinds of sex suggests people are making anything up. When we look at studies and national data for the number of partners people have had, a figure like that is actually pretty in alignment with other data. In fact, it's having had only one partner by the age of twenty five that's more unusual, but I certainly would not suggest you reporting that for yourself is a fiction because it's unusual.

    So, just like one person can be honest in reporting that, so far, they have only had one partner, so can others be when they report greater numbers. Let's make sure that anywhere we are at Scarleteen we're always keeping in mind that chances are always awfully good that a given person's idea of what's real and common is usually based on themselves and a small peer group and is often inaccurate when it comes to how diverse human sexuality as a whole really is. Cheers!

    Editor & Founder, Scarleteen: Sex Ed for the Real World
    Author, S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-to-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and Col

    Maybe college is a lot more boring than it used to be (I don't think so) but by the time I was 25, I had had more than 30 partners if you count "sex without intercourse." Counting only intercourse, my wife was my 25th and last. And I didn't think of myself as any kind of super stud, just aware of the ladies.

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