Well, part of it was that I was suffering from untreated bipolar at the time . . .

If only I had had the sense to end the unhealthy one earlier. The relationship I am in right now is much healthier and is completely stress-free which allows me to enjoy the other person more.

I thought my first one was healthy, until I met a GREAT guy. But after I had sex with Mr. Great, for the first time (we had been romantic for two months). He stopped calling. Now... I can't help but thinking my sex is bad and can't help but wondering--- what's wrong with me??? Besides those two, I've had a one night stand when I was slobbering drunk (unhealthy!) and a "friends with benefits" relationship that ended up only being the benefits part (it was horrible, and hurtful). The one I'm in now, I can't help but think he's taking advantage of me both sexually and emotionally. --- I've had sex less than 20 times with 5 guys--- and besides the one night stand, they all meant something to me. --- I can't help but feel dirty, I can't help but feel used.

I ended my unhealthy relationship early, thank goodness. My mom and best friend said that he was a huge jerk and thank goodness I believed them and ended it quickly.

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now.
we've pretty much had sex throughout the whole time...and its completely healthy and we are happy, and in love.
p.s. im 16 and yes, i know what im talking about.

I've never actually had sex before, so im a full out virgin. I am planning in the future to have sex. I feel in my school there's a lot of pressure to have sex already. But im not that easy..........also im gay which makes it that much more difficult

sex education should be taught to kids because that way they can find out if the relation ships that they will have in the future will be healthy or not and especialy those who are gay

I haven't actually had physical sex yet, which is almost certainly due to the fact that I really don't know what I am in terms of sexuality, but I have had two long term emotional...er, attachments. The first was basically one sided infatuation (with a girl) but was nevertheless very unhealthy in that I basically followed her around like a lost puppy whilst trying to ignore the other people she was with at the time/ her blatant hatred of anyone who didn't like only guys or people of the opposite sex. Yep, gays were fine, but not lesbians or bisexual women *sigh* That one lasted for about a year and a half.

The second (with a guy) was much better in that I felt I had more control over what happened (ie "no, I'm worried about pregnancy, let's not have sex right now")/ my partner wasn't rubbing it in my face that they were sleeping with other people/ I wasn't being mocked for my confusion over my sexuality. That one lasted for 21 months, which is pretty good going IMO considering it was from the age of 14 to 16.

So yes, emotionally mixed, sexually nonexistant.

before i had sex i went to this website and did a bit of reading, me and my boyfriend are extremely close and it is more than just love it is a very close bond and friendship! i was on holiday with him and we were having a really good time, then one day we came back to the apartment and i knew in my heart (sounds really soppy i know but it's true) that i was ready for sex; that i wanted to have sex not just for him but for me. i told him and he was shocked (he wanted to have sex with me way earlier but i made him wait which he did) he kept asking if i was sure and i knew i was. it was difficult at first because we were both virgins so it took a while to get it in but when we did it was suprisingly really good (much better now after practice though) and when we finished we simply smiled at each other and cuddled all night and i was really happy! we both were! what i am trying to say is that the best thing to do is wait honestly, my mum told me this before i had sex and it was the best advice i have been given; don't push yourself to do something wait until you are truly ready and trust me you will know, better yet you'll enjoy it more when you are ready! hope you guys find it as useful as i have found the other comments.