What my boyfriend and I do sometimes we have sex for a little bit without a condom just because it feels better, but when we start to get really, really into it we put a condom on. From what I've read pre-cum can't impregnate you, right?

...and it didn't work for my parents, which is why I'm sitting right here today. I'd classify the choice you're describing, especially given what you're asking, as not knowing there are risks.

It is much less likely, to be sure. Considerably so. And it's understood that it is highly UNlikely if a guy urinates before sex, since urine will tend to clear the urethra of any traces of semen from a previous ejaculation.

But that is not without risk of pregnancy, and certainly poses the same risks of sexually transmitted infections as anything else. Especially when you're young, the risks of pregnancy AND STIs are nearly always higher than for older folks, so you really have to bear in mind with your sexual choices that, if you're of the usual age group we see here, your risks are probably higher right now than they are for the whole of the population.

For condoms to be effective, they need to be used for ALL genital contact, every time, from start to finish. If you want to help them feel better, use extra lubricant, including a few drops inside the condom before your partner puts it on.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years on the 25th of next month. We are both virgins, and have never had any kind of sex with anyone else before our relationship (I'm 19 and he is 18 -- my first kiss was with him, and I was only his second!). The "farthest" we have gone is manual sex, and we do not use protection for that because 1) there is 0 risk of pregnancy and 2) neither of us have any STIs. When we do decide to have actual intercourse someday, we will definitely be using protection: I've already been on the pill for about a year for general health reasons, and we will use condoms as well, every time! :)

i simply am allergic and we cant find non latex ones

Jerk insisted it felt sooooooooooooo much better for him nude and got petulant when I protested that I'm not on the pill. Well I didn't feel any more physical pleasure.

im 19 and shes 17 and it just feels better to have sex without any sex protection things.

It happened on a school bus and the first sexual encounter for both of us and it was head which at the time didn't seem like a big deal. but wish i knew what i know now then. it turned out ok thankfully.

My last girlfriend was fairly paranoid about diseases. She and I got tested for all STD's (STI's) before we ever thought of taking our clothes off together. We remained faithfully monogamous with each other. I didn't cheat on her and at least as far as I know, she never cheated on me (she never gave me any reason to think that she was). A few months after we broke up, I got myself checked again, and came up clean.

Don't know if I'd recommend this method of disease prevention to anyone else, but this is how it worked out for us.

A certain jerk refused to use a condom because he had had a vasectomy and that it felt better because of his size. I should have realised then that he had little to no respect for my wishes. He later sexually assualted me and I promptly dumped him.

I'm a virgin with no prior sexual experience besides my current boyfriend (oral & manual), and his last sexually active relationship ended over a year ago. He has not had any symptoms/a doctor find anything during routine check-ups since then, so we figure it's generally ok. I'm going to start taking the necessary precautions now, though, after educating myself on this site. Thanks a bunch for all the great articles!

yes i know this is the kind of thing you read in magazines and think "WHAT HOW COULD YOU NOT KNOW?!"
but i didn't think you could get pregnant unless on your period :s
but thankfully my boyfriend must know because we always stop before any pre ejactulation anyway
we've ever used a condom but not purposely..
just dont have any ><

I have noticed that when I am having sex with a woman for the first time, and we are moving from oral to intercourse there is an urgency... maybe even a fear that if we slow down that we'll back out. The problem of not slowing down to use a condom the first time a couple has intercourse, is that once the precedence has been set, it is tough to begin using a condom every time from beginning to end. The attitude is that, "oh well, we have already exposed ourselves to the risk of STD/STIs". Therefore, in the future, I find that we often rely on other forms of birth control (pill, IUD, Depo) and combine that with the withdraw technique. This of course, leaves us both complete open to contracting STD/STIs.

My partner and I were the same sex(physically) and I knew she had no STDs.

My boyfriend can't keep it up with a condom on, of any type, his doctor says it's an allergy. He's been tested for all of the STDs and I'm on birth control, only then did I feel safe sleeping with him without a condom.

See guyz, I am a male, but I think that we should try to control our desires till its safe and acceptable. I mean if the girl doesnt want pregnency at the stage then we should take precautions carefully. We should try to understand their feelings.

Neither of us orgasm. So he doesn't even need to pull out. Yeah, theres pre-cum but I've been on BC for a few years now for health reasons. Sex feels better for both of us without a condom. We're both clean. I trust him he trusts me. I know you're all rolling your eyes but its a decision we talked about and we've decided that for our relationship we won't use condoms. But if either of us start orgasming, the condoms are coming out even though I'm allergic to latex.

To all you girls who say 'oh can't I'm allergic' let me englighten you. Trojan Supra and Durex Avanti. both made out of polyeurothane. twice as strong as latex, half as thin and it transmits body heat. the guys I've used those with have said they can barely tell they have one on. I get them easily at CVS

relating to oral sex: we were both each others first sexual contact, and are each sure we're clean.

My husband and I looked into it and felt that it was very unlikely to get pregnant during the first 2 days of my period and decided to have unprotected sex. We use a diaphram the rest of the time.

We dated in our early 20's in the mid 70's but we knew enough about BC then (from our own learning, no sex ed back then) and knew it safer then to have unprotected sex. We knew each other long enough to trust each other and were faithful to each other. We've continued to be faithful to each other going on 32 years of marriage. Note: Marriages CAN last more than five months or five years!!

Me and my husband just got married and i found out that i had an std a month after we started having sex.
I was treated but he hasn't been yet so if we have sex and he does go inside of me can i still get the std back?

Anonymous, I don't know what infection particularly you are talking about, but for the most part, yes: if only one of you is treated, you may well just pass it back and forth. Your healthcare provider likely told you that, as well.

However, too, given an STI has been recently present, having sex without latex barriers, period, until a few months pass and you both are retested is not wise. I don't know when the STI was acquired, but you obviously may also need to have a conversation about monogamy and find out if that's an agreement you both have or have not been respecting and do or do not intend to follow: if not, you'll want to always use barriers, from here on out.

My husband and I had been together for 8 years before we got married. Before we got married we both got retested. Please note the REtested part. We were both negative for all STI's and our blood test were both negative for Hepatitis B,C,D, & G, HIV and MRSA/VRE. Yes MRSA/VRE can be sexually transmitted. I'm not looking to get pregnant right not but since we are married it would be okay! We are married but most importantly we are in monogamy and we both agreed that we would inform each other before we strayed!

my boyfriend and i were both drunk, i was blacked out. we usually practice the pull out method, which is apparently difficult when intoxicated. i never expected him to make a mistake, but i learned my lesson. a) less drinking, b) more condoms.

I never drank or did drugs but I enjoyed the adrenaline rush of the risk of unsafe sex. It was like a high knowing it was dangerous. I also had a history of Self-injury and it played a major part in my decision making.