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I know its suppose to be the happiest of the yr, christmas, but its not for me. I have so much disasters intruding into my life at this point. One major thing for me right now is the death of my grandma approaching. A few days ago I found out my grandma has cancer in her stomach but went to her live and she has 6-12 mons to live but she and I believe it will be sooner. And I just been hanging with her recently more, but like sometimes I just feel like not going over there at all cause its so hard to face. And I try and not let it bother me or show emotions but it really kills me inside to see her the way she is. How does anyone cope with this???
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I am so sorry, my gran died when I was about... 16-17 I think, it was very very hard because she was very nice and kind and I loved her a lot. One thing I would say is that it's probably advisable to try and see her even if it's hard to face because while I did see my gran when she was sick shortly before her death, I still wish I'd had more time with her.

I can also relate about the holiday/winter blues, even when nothing is going wrong, I still get affected by the cold weather and the short days and I have triggers around religion which are more pronounced when so many people are celebrating it even more than usual. But you say you have a lot of disaster in your life at the moment, do you want to talk more about that? Or would you find it helpful to talk more about your feelings about your grandma's illness?

Always knock before entering my room when I am in there alone, as I may be doing all sorts of wonderfully thrilling things that I'd rather you didn't see.

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I'm so sorry that you are going through this...
I understand that it's hard when everyone else seems to be focusing on the holidays. As Jill said it's good to spend as much time with your gran as you can, and try and seek support from your family.
It's not easy coping with death, but it does get easier over time. If you can also seek support from your friends.
I wish I could offer more support.

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