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breath
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I'm not happy about being in town (4th largest in the US) and the conservative attitude amongst people here. Even thought I have some good friends here (I guess they are good acquaintances) , we don't really or shouldn't really talk about ideology because of the differences. The people here are also so tied to their own system that they don't know what it is like to go outside of their upbringing and think about things deeply.


These people think that the only kind of "real" sex is PIV. And if I masturbate, I'm not "having sex" and if I buy a vibrator, I am "close to stimulating 'real sex' "

I am just unhappy and pissed at this attitude yet want to respect others. I like their friendship but how can you truly be friends with someone with this mental gap?

I realize that I can't expect the world to think like me, and that those are my thoughts and beliefs.

Any thoughts on how you guys deal with these attidutes that seem to permeate most of the world?

[ 07-09-2011, 07:06 PM: Message edited by: breath ]

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Honestly, the best thing I can suggest is to not talk about sex all that much these people. In that way you can agree to disagree and try to avoid those topics.

That works with friends, but it's trickier with partners. Personally, I think that I can only be involved with partners who have a similar perspective to mine on these sorts of things.

Too, if you're in the city I think you're in, you *can* find more liberal folks to hang out with. They may be harder to find, but you might have some luck looking into common interest groups (and google can be a great resource for that!).

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breath
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Thanks for that!
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Janet R 1974
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I'm a mom with two teen daughters and I've always told them that their own sexual preferences should be between them and their partners. Not everyone will agree on your attitudes and belief towards sex and it's sometimes better just to keep your own personal feelings a private matter. Good luck!
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breath
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You are right. Well said.
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