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Lillith Ambrose
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So, ever had that feeling like you should be freaking out because you just had sex for your second or third time and you think you might be pregnant even though nothing went wrong with the condom? (No tears, leaks, breaks, stuff like that)

Here's the worst part: You know that your period is like... 3 weeks after the day you actually had sex? Perhaps you've had this feeling more then once?

I'm going threw this at the moment and I'm gradually calming down as the days to my period get closer. (My PMS signs are showing as they always do and I did cave in and take a HPT that came back negative.) But, I would like to know if anyone else has had this issue and would be willing to share how they got threw it or how they calmed themselves down because they knew they were worrying for no reason.

Thanks for your feed back! [Smile]

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flippo
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Oh man, I'm going through this right now. As far as my boyfriend and I could tell, nothing went wrong with the condoms the times we've had sex this month, but I can't stop freaking out. Every time I feel any little twinge in my belly, my mind says PREGNANT. The first time I had sex this month actually was like 3 weeks before my period, which is due around the end of this week. I'm still terrified. Honestly, I don't know how to calm myself down besides reading everything on the Internet about early pregnancy signs and condom usage, and asking questions on Scarleteen.
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Gilraen
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Out of curiosity, have either of you discussed emergency plans with your partners? I know a big thing for me about getting over pregnancy worries is knowing that my partner and I have a plan if something goes wrong. I know that he will back me up and support me (financially and emotionally) should we have an unplanned pregnancy. I also keep an HPT tucked away in a cabinet so that if the worry gets really bad and it's been a long enough amount of time, I can take the test and see if I'm actually pregnant or not.
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Jacob at Scarleteen
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quote:
But, I would like to know if anyone else has had this issue and would be willing to share how they got threw it or how they calmed themselves down because they knew they were worrying for no reason.
I've never worried about my own pregnancy, seeing as I don't have the organs for it, but I have done that worrying generally after new sex... but I don't think it's always for no reason.

I think sometimes you can transfer are anxieties about one thing onto another thing.

And starting to be sexually active can be a big personal change so it's actually on the one hand ok to feel a little bit anxious generally at that time as it can just be the part of our mind that is basically thinking "AHHH NEW STUFF!! SCARY!"... but is actually part of the process of dealing with change.

I think it's a sign worth respecting in yourself... in a partnered scenario, for me, it might be a sign that I might want to, without realising it, take things a little slower etc...

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Lillith Ambrose
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I have some HPTs hidden away and I just had a(an unnecessary)panic attack because I thought I was pregnant.

I hate how hard it is to get EC pills.. I mean, you can walk in and get BC anywhere with almost no fuss, but lord knows when you have something happen (heaven forbid rape or assault) people are like, oh sorry you're too young. Last time I checked, 1) No one is too young to have sex/be assaulted and 2) Not everyone has 10$-200$ to spend on something that should be accessible to women everywhere.

(Excuse my rant) But in all seriousness, I do believe that is does have to deal with change and such. I hate how most symptoms, are just normal stuff that could be wrong like being stressed or something. Dx So not cool..

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